I’m Living My Life — So Why Are They Still Watching?

Here I am.
Minding my own business.
Not bothering anyone.

🪴 New friends.
🖌️ New hobbies.
🌞 New interests.
💫 A new way of life.

Eight months on, living independently, building peace, embracing joy —
I’m healing.
I’m learning.
I’m working.
I’m growing.

I’ve built new boundaries, formed meaningful connections, rediscovered who I am, and stepped into a life of freedom that I was never allowed to fully experience before.

And yet… they’re still watching.
Still hovering.
Still stalking.
Still trying to access my life — not directly, but through the people around me.

So I have to ask:
What do they think they’re going to find?
What do they think they’re going to do with this information?

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🧠 From a Psychological Perspective:

This isn’t curiosity.
This isn’t care.
This is obsessive control masquerading as concern.
This is what happens when someone can’t stand to lose their grip on your narrative.

Psychologically, this is called enmeshment and intrusive control — a behavior pattern where someone refuses to see you as a separate person with your own life, boundaries, and identity.

Instead of letting go, they:

🔍 Monitor your movements
👀 Stalk your friends and connections
🎭 Watch your life unfold from the shadows — and still try to insert themselves into it

Why? Because letting go means accepting they have no more power.
And for someone who once thrived on control, that truth is unbearable.

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🔥 The Reality Is:

They can’t stand to see me happy.
They can’t stand to see me healing.
They can’t stand that I’ve moved on — that I don’t talk about them, think about them, or need them.

They don’t want peace.
They want access.
They want influence.
They want a reaction.

But here’s the thing: there is no reaction.
Because I’m not living in their story anymore.

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🛑 To those who are still watching:

This isn’t your business.
You don’t belong in this chapter.
You are no longer relevant.

My life is not your stage.
My healing is not your drama.
My friends are not your pawns.

You cannot control what you no longer belong to.
And no amount of stalking will change the fact that your access is revoked — permanently.

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💬 To Anyone Experiencing the Same:

If you’ve ever felt like you’re being watched, followed, stalked — long after cutting ties — please know:
You are not paranoid.
You are not overreacting.
You are not imagining it.

This is a trauma response.
This is control.
This is not okay.

Block them.
Protect your peace.
Speak the truth.

Let them reveal themselves for what they are — because eventually, the ones still obsessed are the ones who look unwell.

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I’ve moved on.
And nothing they do will ever change that.

#NotThePersonYouThinkTheyAre
#DigitalStalkingIsReal
#FreedomAfterAbuse
#LivingMyLife
#SurvivorStrong
#NewBeginnings
#YouDontOwnMe
#EnmeshmentAwareness
#BoundariesAreBeautiful
#ToxicPeopleStayOut

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— Linda C J Turner

Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment