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Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.

Love Bombing, Idealisation, and the Emotional High–Crash Cycle

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner © 2025 Linda Carol Turner. Content protected by copyright.
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“Love bombing” is a term now widely used to describe a pattern of overwhelming affection, attention, admiration, and emotional intensity early in a relationship. While the phrase itself is often used casually online, psychology and relationship research do recognise patterns of manipulative idealisation and devaluation that can occur in unhealthy or coercive dynamics. In the… Read More Love Bombing, Idealisation, and the Emotional High–Crash Cycle

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“Don’t Discuss Our Relationship with Anyone” — A Serious Red Flag

One of the most dangerous things that can happen inside an unhealthy or abusive relationship is silence. Not peace.Not privacy. Silence. The kind of silence created when one person slowly conditions the other to: stop talking stop confiding in friends stop sharing concerns stop questioning behaviour and stop trusting their own instincts If you are… Read More “Don’t Discuss Our Relationship with Anyone” — A Serious Red Flag

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Protection Doesn’t End After Divorce — It Continues for Your Safety

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about abusive or coercive relationships is that once the relationship ends, the danger automatically disappears. Unfortunately, psychology, neuroscience, and real-life experience often tell a very different story. For many people, separation and divorce are not the end of emotional pressure, intimidation, control, or fear. In fact, research consistently… Read More Protection Doesn’t End After Divorce — It Continues for Your Safety

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Abuse is not a “two versions of reality”

Abuse is not a “two versions of reality” situation in any meaningful moral sense.Whatever cognitive or emotional narratives people build afterwards, abuse is defined by behaviour and its impact, not by interpretation. ⚖️ The important distinction 1. Abuse is behaviour-based, not perception-based In psychology and law, abuse is identified through patterns of actions, such as: coercion or… Read More Abuse is not a “two versions of reality”

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Trauma Dumping

“Personal stories without trauma dumping” is basically about sharing experience in a way that builds connection without overwhelming the listener. In neuroscience terms, it’s about how the brain processes social information, emotional load, and attention limits. 🧠 What’s happening in the brain 1. Social bonding system OxytocinWhen someone shares a personal story at a manageable emotional level,… Read More Trauma Dumping

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Self-regulation after closeness

The distinction matters a lot because the behaviour can look identical on the surface, but the internal state and relationship outcome are very different. Here’s how psychology typically separates them: 1) Healthy “needing space” This is self-regulation after closeness, not rejection. Internal state “I feel full / tired / overstimulated” “I like you, I just need to reset”… Read More Self-regulation after closeness

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Self-destruct button

In relationships, the “self-destruct button” usually shows up as a very specific pattern: things are going well, then suddenly something inside flips and you either pull away, create conflict, or emotionally shut down. In neuroscience and psychology, this isn’t random—it’s a predictable stress response shaped by learning, attachment, and threat processing. What’s happening in the brain… Read More Self-destruct button

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😳 “You Weren’t Expecting That, Were You?”

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

The Photo That Changed the Entire Conversation There are moments in life that permanently alter group dynamics. This was one of them. It started innocently enough: “Can we see a photo of him?” A simple request. Harmless. Curiosity wrapped in politeness. And for a brief second, I considered refusing on ethical grounds, emotional safety grounds,… Read More 😳 “You Weren’t Expecting That, Were You?”

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