You know the type… They walk into a room like they’ve just been personally delivered by the heavens. 👑 Head in the clouds. Ego through the roof. Self-awareness somewhere in another postcode. 😂 And then, when someone actually shows an interest in them: “I can’t believe they want to go out with ME!” Darling… Have… Read More 😂 WHEN SOMEONE THINKS THEY’RE GOD’S GIFT… BUT FORGOT TO CHECK THE RECEIPT
The author reflects humorously on her unconventional past relationship, contrasting her first husband’s attractiveness with her second’s physical mismatches. She acknowledges that attraction can extend beyond appearance, driven by emotional needs and circumstances. Ultimately, she returns to her original type, illustrating how personal preferences can resurface after significant experiences.… Read More “What Did You See in Him?” — Just Look at the Family Photo!
The lengths a mother will go to when she hasn’t seen her children for two years I have a confession to make. Looking back, I have to laugh. When I got together with my ex, there was a very important detail he apparently failed to notice. I wasn’t actually there because I was particularly interested… Read More Hands Up: I Wasn’t Actually Looking for a Boyfriend — I Was Looking for My Children
There can come a point after an abusive or deeply controlling relationship when something inside you changes. You think about the person who once occupied so much of your emotional world — and you realise something has happened. You cannot seem to remember what you ever found so wonderful about them. The memories that once… Read More When You Can’t Remember Anything Good Anymore: When Love Turns to Disgust After Abuse
Explore the psychology of hidden vindictiveness, moral superiority, impression management and indirect retaliation, and how to recognise harmful patterns without assuming motives.… Read More Covert Vindictiveness: When Someone Pretends to Have Integrity but Retaliates in Private
Dreams of abusive ex-partners can evoke panic and feelings of helplessness, often mirroring past trauma of entrapment and emotional abuse. These nightmares reflect the brain’s processing of danger and the lingering impact of coercive control. While waking reality differs, persistent fear may signify unresolved emotional connections, necessitating compassionate self-reassurance and potentially seeking therapeutic help.… Read More When You Wake Up Still Trying to Escape: The Neuroscience of Dreams After Emotional Abuse
The narrative highlights the significance of recognizing early warning signs in relationships, particularly through a recounting of emotional abuse. The author reflects on a past conversation that foreshadowed their own experience with similar behavior when attempting to leave a relationship. Ultimately, it emphasizes the importance of understanding patterns of abuse and the consequences of one’s actions.… Read More The Warning I Ignored: When Someone Takes Pride in Destroying Their Former Partner
Sometimes, looking back, the question can be painfully difficult: “Why didn’t I leave when people were telling me I was in danger?” You may remember the moments clearly. Your doctor asked questions that made you realise he was concerned. Your psychologist repeatedly questioned your partner’s behaviour and history. Your doctor was shocked that the situation… Read More When Everyone Else Can See the Danger: Why People Can Stay Even When They Are Being Offered a Way Out
There is quite a lot going on psychologically when a woman who has been part of a couple for many years suddenly becomes single through divorce, separation or bereavement. The painful part is that she may lose not only her partner, but an entire social structure. There are several overlapping psychological and neuroscience mechanisms behind this.… Read More Couple friendships can become a closed social system
Sometimes the person who caused the abuse is not the only person who keeps the truth hidden. Families can become part of the silence. They may minimise what happened. They may rewrite the history. They may describe violence as “marital problems”, “arguments” or “something between the couple”. They may insist that nobody should talk about… Read More When Families Keep the Truth Hidden: How Secrecy Can Protect Abuse
