By Linda C J TurnerTrauma Therapist | Emotional Intelligence Educator | Advocate “The more someone lies, the more they detach from their core identity — until they no longer know who they truly are.” Lying doesn’t just harm others — it fractures the liar themselves. Over time, each deception becomes a thread pulling them further… Read More The Truth About Lying: When Words and Energy Don’t Match
— Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment I can honestly say — hand on heart — that throughout my life, I have never cheated on a partner. I’ve been married twice, and in both relationships, I remained faithful. Not because I feared getting caught. Not… Read More Integrity in a World of Deception: Why I Still Believe in Christian Values
There comes a moment in every survivor’s healing when the veil lifts — and we finally see it clearly: the person we loved never really existed. Not in the way we believed. What we were engaging with was a constructed version of a person — a False Self — built entirely on control, performance, and image. 🪞 The… Read More The Collapse of the False Self: Why I Am No Longer Anyone’s Relief
In emotionally abusive relationships, moments that should be special — like anniversaries — are often laced with confusion, shame, and hurt. Not because of what is given or not given, but because of how it’s done. Behind every “grand gesture” is often a deeper agenda: control, manipulation, or self-image preservation. And sometimes, the greatest betrayal isn’t just… Read More Smoke and Mirrors: The Anniversary Gift That Was Never Really Yours
When the Abuser’s World Unravels – Understanding the Hidden Fallout of Losing Control After decades of manipulating, gaslighting, and feeding off another person’s emotional energy, some abusers finally find themselves isolated—cut off from their primary “supply” of control. When the person they’ve depended on as a human punching bag, a source of validation, or an emotional… Read More Self-Destruction or Implosion:
No more fakeness.No more pretending everything’s fine.No more covering up for his bad behaviour just to keep the peace.No more shrinking into myself out of embarrassment after his inappropriate remarks.No more cringing in restaurants, wishing the ground would swallow me whole.No more holding my breath, praying he wouldn’t cause a scene. No more being told,… Read More NO MORE.
✨ Living Authentically on My Own Terms ✨ I don’t need another relationship to prove who I am.I don’t need a partner to create some socially acceptable façade of “normality.”I’m not broken because I’m on my own.In fact, I’m finally whole. After 32 years of emotional neglect, manipulation, and being used, not cherished — I can confidently… Read More I Don’t Need a Relationship to Prove My Worth
For the first time in decades, I find myself living on my own — and loving it. Not just tolerating it. Not “making the most of it.”But truly, deeply loving it.And no one is more surprised than I am. For over thirty years, I lived under the weight of control, manipulation, feigned illness, cruelty, and emotional… Read More No More Permission Needed: The Quiet Joy of Living Free
He’ll play the role.He always has. The poor, sick, misunderstood victim.Too fragile for court.Too ill to be held accountable.Too delicate to serve the community he harmed. And yet…One day masked in frailty.The next? Paddle tennis in the sunshine.Performing strength when it suits him. 🕵️♀️ The lengths some go to for sympathy,To escape justice,To rewrite the… Read More 📢 Not the Person You Think They Are🎭 The Performance of “Poor, Frail Old Man”
Physical abuse is never acceptable. But some forms of physical violence cross a critical threshold where the risk of serious injury or death becomes very real. Knowing the signs of dangerous physical abuse can be the first step toward protecting yourself or someone you care about. What Is Dangerous Physical Abuse? Dangerous physical abuse refers to any act of violence… Read More When Physical Abuse Becomes Dangerous: What You Need to Know
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 