Author: Linda C J Turner

Linda C J Turner - Your Journey to Emotional Wellness | Emotional Trauma Therapist | EMDR | CBT | NLP |

🔥 The Neuroscience of Self-Sabotage: Why Some People Seem to Want Punishment

It sounds irrational — why would anyone risk prison, exposure, or destruction of everything they have?But in the mind of someone trapped in deep shame and trauma, punishment can feel safer than vulnerability. When people carry unresolved childhood wounds or personality disorders, their sense of self is often built on pain, guilt, and fear of rejection.Underneath the… Read More 🔥 The Neuroscience of Self-Sabotage: Why Some People Seem to Want Punishment

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🧠 What “Limbic Hijacking” Really Means

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment

The term comes from Daniel Goleman (author of Emotional Intelligence) and refers to moments when the limbic system — the emotional center of the brain — overrides the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for logic, reasoning, and self-control. In simpler terms: The emotional brain takes the driver’s seat, while the rational brain gets locked in the trunk. 🧩 The Brain Areas… Read More 🧠 What “Limbic Hijacking” Really Means

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Practical steps that calm the brain’s alarm system

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

Science-based strategies that protect your body and mind when you’ve been through chronic harassment or trauma.(If someone is currently violating a restraining order, though, please keep involving law enforcement or a legal advocate—safety planning is the top priority.) 🧠 1. Re-establish real safety first Your nervous system can’t down-regulate while it still senses danger. Practical steps… Read More Practical steps that calm the brain’s alarm system

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The Prefrontal Cortex: Impulse Control Breakdown

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

When someone repeatedly breaks a restraining order or keeps pursuing a victim despite the risk of arrest, they’re often driven by a combination of neurological dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, and learned behavior patterns — not simply “wanting punishment,” but an inability to regulate their impulses or tolerate loss of control. Let’s unpack what’s happening in their brain, step… Read More The Prefrontal Cortex: Impulse Control Breakdown

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The Brain’s Safety System Is Still on Alert

When an abuser continues to intrude or stalk, even after you’ve left, it interferes with the brain’s natural healing and rewiring process. Let’s unpack what’s happening — both neurologically and psychologically — and why it can feel like your brain is being “hijacked” by the connection that refuses to die. 1. The Brain’s Safety System Is… Read More The Brain’s Safety System Is Still on Alert

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Synaptic Pruning: How the Brain Lets Go to Grow

When we talk about “letting go” emotionally, it often feels abstract — like advice easier said than done. But your brain actually knows how to let go at a biological level. This process is called synaptic pruning, and it’s one of the key ways your brain adapts, learns, and evolves throughout your life. What Is Synaptic Pruning? Your… Read More Synaptic Pruning: How the Brain Lets Go to Grow

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What Felt Like an Ending Was Really the Making of You: The Neuroscience of Renewal

There are moments in life when everything seems to fall apart — the relationship ends, the job disappears, the familiar world collapses. It feels like death, not in the physical sense, but in the deep emotional sense of losing everything that once gave you identity, meaning, and belonging. Yet, neuroscience shows that what feels like… Read More What Felt Like an Ending Was Really the Making of You: The Neuroscience of Renewal

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First Dates, Gentlemen, and the Psychology of Growth

First dates can be such an eye-opener — a chance to learn, laugh, and rediscover what healthy connection actually feels like. I was chatting recently with a gentleman who mentioned, quite casually, that he could cook, clean, iron, and basically take care of himself.I smiled — partly because it’s refreshing to hear, and partly because it reminded… Read More First Dates, Gentlemen, and the Psychology of Growth

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The Neuroscience of Peaceful Living and Real Connection

Calm evenings out with real conversation.Someone who smiles, listens, and asks you questions — not to judge, but to connect.Evenings at home, sharing a meal, playing guitar, singing together.Weekends with friends and our dogs who’ve made the move to Spain.Fun days and nights with family — eating, laughing, relaxing. This is how life should be:No… Read More The Neuroscience of Peaceful Living and Real Connection

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