Understand how you connect, react, and relate in relationships

Instructions:
Read each statement and tick the ones that feel true for you. Don’t overthink—go with your instinct.

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🔵 SECURE ATTACHMENT

☐ I feel comfortable with closeness and independence
☐ I trust people without needing constant reassurance
☐ I communicate openly about my feelings
☐ I don’t panic when someone needs space
☐ I can rely on others and allow them to rely on me
☐ I feel generally calm and stable in relationships
☐ I don’t chase or withdraw excessively

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🟡 ANXIOUS (PREOCCUPIED) ATTACHMENT

☐ I worry about being abandoned or replaced
☐ I need frequent reassurance that I’m valued
☐ I overthink messages, tone, or delays in response
☐ I feel unsettled when someone pulls away
☐ I tend to invest quickly and deeply
☐ I find it hard to “just let things be”
☐ I may reach out again even when I haven’t had a reply

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🔴 AVOIDANT (DISMISSIVE) ATTACHMENT

☐ I value independence more than emotional closeness
☐ I feel uncomfortable when people get too close
☐ I pull away when someone expects too much from me
☐ I struggle to express my emotions openly
☐ I prefer to handle things on my own
☐ I may lose interest when a relationship becomes serious
☐ I avoid difficult emotional conversations

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🟣 FEARFUL-AVOIDANT (DISORGANISED) ATTACHMENT

☐ I want closeness but also fear it
☐ I can be warm and then suddenly distant
☐ I struggle to trust people, even when I care about them
☐ I feel emotionally overwhelmed in relationships
☐ I fear being hurt but also fear being alone
☐ My relationships can feel intense and unstable
☐ I sometimes push people away and then regret it

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📊 Your Results

• Mostly Secure ticks → You likely have a secure attachment style
• Mostly Anxious ticks → You may lean toward anxious attachment
• Mostly Avoidant ticks → You may lean toward avoidant attachment
• Mostly Fearful ticks → You may lean toward fearful-avoidant attachment

👉 Many people will see a mix—this is normal. Focus on your dominant pattern, especially under stress.

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💡 Important Note for Readers

Attachment styles are not fixed labels—they are patterns shaped by experience.
With awareness, they can change.

The goal isn’t to “fit a category,” but to understand:

• how you respond to closeness
• how you react to distance
• and what you need to feel safe in relationships

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✨ Closing Line (optional for your site tone)

The right relationship won’t require you to chase, shut down, or second-guess your worth—it will feel steady, mutual, and clear.

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