Dating Red Flag Cheat Sheet: Questions & Statements to Watch Out For

1️⃣ Personal / Intimate Probing

  1. “Tell me all your fantasies and secrets”
  2. “Who do you live with?”
  3. “Do you live alone?”
  4. “Do you have kids? Can you get rid of them?”
  5. “What do your parents think about you dating?”
  6. “Have you been with anyone else recently?”
  7. “Do you sleep alone?”
  8. “Do you have any past medical issues?”
  9. “What do you do in your free time? Everything?”
  10. “Have you ever cheated?”

2️⃣ Financial / Asset Questions

  1. “Who owns your house?”
  2. “Who owns your car?”
  3. “Do you have more than one car?”
  4. “Do you have a separate bank account?”
  5. “How much do you earn?”
  6. “Do you have investments?”
  7. “Do you get alimony or child support?”
  8. “Do you have insurance?”
  9. “How much do you have saved?”
  10. “Do you own expensive things?”

3️⃣ Legal / Divorce / Separation

  1. “How long until the divorce is final?”
  2. “What will you get in the settlement?”
  3. “Does your ex have visitation?”
  4. “Does your ex interfere?”
  5. “Do you have lawyers or legal problems?”
  6. “Have you ever been sued?”
  7. “Any chance your ex will fight you?”
  8. “Are there legal limits to what you can do?”
  9. “Do you have custody issues?”
  10. “Will the divorce affect your future plans?”

4️⃣ Lifestyle / Privacy Invasion

  1. “What are your passwords?”
  2. “Can I see your phone / messages?”
  3. “Where do you usually go on vacation?”
  4. “Do you travel alone or with friends?”
  5. “Do you have social media accounts for work?”
  6. “Do you ever stay out late?”
  7. “Who do you spend your time with?”
  8. “Can I check your emails?”
  9. “Do you have any friends I should know about?”
  10. “What’s your daily routine?”

5️⃣ Manipulative / Pressure Tactics

  1. “If I asked you to do something, would you?”
  2. “Would you leave your family for me?”
  3. “If you loved me, you’d…”
  4. “Don’t you trust me to tell me everything?”
  5. “I just need to know, please be honest with me”
  6. “You should be open with me about everything”
  7. “I’m only asking because I care about you”
  8. “You don’t need to hide anything from me”
  9. “I just like to know who I’m dating”
  10. “I like to be in control of finances”

6️⃣ Love-Bombing / Fast Intimacy Statements

  1. “We’re meant to be together”
  2. “I feel like we’re soulmates”
  3. “You complete me already”
  4. “I can feel your energy from here”
  5. “I feel like I’ve known you forever”
  6. “I need you in my life right now”
  7. “I can’t imagine anyone else but you”
  8. “I think about you all the time”
  9. “I can’t wait to spend my life with you”
  10. “I trust you completely already”

💡 Quick Detection Tips

  • Too fast, too familiar: Questions about money, secrets, or love-bombing immediately.
  • Financial probing: Any detailed money, property, or bank account questions early on.
  • Legal fishing: Questions about divorce, settlements, custody, or lawyers.
  • Pressure & manipulation: Using guilt, urgency, or “trust me” language.
  • Privacy invasion: Asking for passwords, access to devices, or constant monitoring.

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