This isn’t new behaviour.
It’s the same pattern that’s been happening for decades — just playing out in a different way.

When someone ignores divorce proceedings, doesn’t respond to solicitors, blocks the sale of a house, removes signs, and then later blames or sues you for delays — that isn’t confusion or bad communication.

It’s control.

Some people cope with life by controlling others. When they lose direct control (because of separation or divorce), they often try to regain it through:

• delays
• silence
• mixed messages
• legal threats
• changing the story depending on the audience

At the same time, they tell others they are “doing the right thing,” “moving forward,” or “being reasonable.”

That split — saying one thing and doing another — is deliberate.
It creates confusion, doubt, and exhaustion in the other person.

This isn’t about solving problems.
If it were, things would move forward steadily and clearly.

Instead, the uncertainty keeps the other person stressed, waiting, second-guessing themselves, and constantly reacting. That’s the point.

It feels familiar because it is familiar.
It’s the same mind games, just dressed up as legal or practical issues.

And when you start questioning your own reality or wondering if you’re imagining it — that’s not a flaw in you. That’s the effect of long-term manipulation.

The most important thing to understand is this:
You don’t need to work out why they do it.
You just need to recognise what they are doing.

Once the pattern is seen clearly, it loses power — not because it stops, but because you stop blaming yourself for it.

This isn’t drama.
It isn’t bitterness.
It isn’t failure to move on.

It’s a continuation of control — and recognising that is a sign of clarity, not instability.