If It’s Not a Relationship… Then What Is It?!
(And no, it’s not “dating” either — let’s be honest.)
Let’s cut through the confusion.
If you’re constantly questioning whether you’re in a relationship — chances are, you’re not.
Because when someone truly wants to be with you, you won’t need to decode, overthink, or justify their behaviour.
So ask yourself honestly:
🧐 If you’re not…
🌹 Going out together — on actual dates, not just “hanging out”
🎁 Being treated — no flowers, no surprises, not even a cheap bottle of wine from the petrol station
💌 Receiving small thoughtful gestures — like perfume, a book you mentioned, or your favourite snack
🧳 Taking trips — not even a spontaneous weekend away or a picnic in the park
📍Visiting your favourite places — places that light you up and remind you who you are
👥 Meeting their friends — if you’re a “secret,” ask why
📆 Spending real time together — not just convenience calls, not just late nights or last-minute drop-ins
…then what exactly are you in?
Because it’s not a relationship.
It’s not even dating.
It’s a situationship at best — a one-sided arrangement at worst.
And your time, heart, and energy deserve more than crumbs.
🚩 Signs You’re Being Kept on the Shelf:
- You’re always available — but they rarely are.
- They never initiate plans, but always expect you to say yes.
- You’ve become their emotional support system, but get very little back.
- You know everything about them — but they’ve made no effort to learn you.
- You feel drained, confused, or insecure after spending time with them.
- You keep defending them to your friends — and to yourself.
💡 Psychological Truth:
People make time for what matters to them.
They invest in who they value.
If they’re not showing up, not giving, not including you in their world — they’re keeping you close just enough to stop you leaving, but never close enough to truly connect.
You’re not needy for wanting effort.
You’re not high maintenance for expecting reciprocity.
You’re just waking up to the truth of what you’re worth.
So if this “relationship” is all talk, no action — ask yourself:
What am I actually doing here?
Because love shouldn’t feel like convincing someone to love you back.
#KnowYourWorth
#ThisIsntDating
#StopSettlingForBareMinimum
#IfTheyWantedToTheyWould
#ActionsNotExcuses
#SituationshipRecovery
#LoveShouldFeelSafeNotConfusing
#YouDeserveToBeChosenNotTolerated
