Love, Lies & Somewhere to Stay: Beware the Professional Stopover
(Yes, they’re out there — and yes, they know exactly what they’re doing.)
Let’s call it what it is:
There are people out there — men and women — not looking for love, connection, or a true partnership.
They’re looking for a roof.
A rescue mission.
A financial upgrade.
A soft place to land while they sort out their mess.
And if you happen to be kind, warm-hearted, stable, and maybe have a house that doesn’t smell like broken dreams — you’re exactly their type.
They’ll tell you they’re “divorced” or “separated” and “just getting back on their feet.”
They’ll lay it on thick — trauma stories, shared pain, “we’ve both been through so much.”
You’ll feel sorry for them… and that’s exactly the point.
They’re not dating for love — they’re dating for logistics.
👔 Some are hunting for a wealthy widow.
💍 Others are scouting for a “safe” man who’ll never leave them.
💸 Some are just looking to stop paying rent.
And with apps and inboxes full of filtered faces and clever words, it’s never been easier to pretend.
⚠️ What to Watch For:
🚩 They move quickly — emotionally and physically.
“Let’s not waste time” actually means “Let me in fast before you see the red flags.”
🚩 They’re all story, no substance.
A tragic backstory, but no receipts. Everything is vague: divorce pending, career on pause, money ‘in limbo’.
🚩 They drop hints early.
“My ex took everything.”
“I’m just sleeping at a friend’s.”
“My landlord’s selling the flat…”
Translation? They’re warming up to move into yours.
🚩 You start feeling more like a solution than a soulmate.
They’re less interested in your heart, more interested in your square footage.
🧠 Psychological Insight:
This is emotional fraud — and it’s real.
They study your empathy. They mimic your values.
And they’ll mirror what you want to hear — until the mask slips and you’re left supporting someone who never truly supported you.
You’re not cynical for being cautious.
You’re not unloving for setting boundaries.
You’re being wise in a world where people sometimes trade charm for access.
So keep your heart open, but your eyes even wider.
Trust slowly.
Watch how they handle money, stress, rejection, responsibility.
And remember — you’re not an Airbnb for emotionally unavailable people.
You deserve real love.
Not someone looking for a bed, a buffer, or a bailout.
#EmotionalFraudIsReal
#SwindlerTindlersAndOtherTricksters
#StopoverRelationships
#FinancialFakers
#Don’tBeTheirSteppingStone
#ProtectYourPeace
#MinefieldDating
#TrustYourGutNotJustTheirStory
