“I will only share my life with someone who is truly curious about who I am — not just what I can do for them.”
Let that be your promise to yourself.
Because after everything you’ve been through — the emotional labor, the self-abandonment, the long nights wondering if you were asking for too much — you’ve earned the right to never settle again.
You’ve already paid the price of ignoring your intuition.
You’ve already felt the ache of being in a room with someone who doesn’t see you.
You’ve already lived the life where love was conditional — on your silence, your shape, your sacrifice.
Never again.
💬 You are allowed to wait for:
- Someone who asks about your day because they care, not because it’s routine.
- Someone who remembers your favorite things — not because you reminded them — but because they listened.
- Someone who respects your past, encourages your growth, and doesn’t punish you for your boundaries.
- Someone who doesn’t just make space for you, but wants to share that space.
There is a vast difference between someone tolerating your existence and someone being curious about your essence.
And if you haven’t found them yet?
That’s okay.
Don’t rush.
Don’t compare.
Don’t say “yes” just because it’s not as bad as the last one.
You didn’t survive all that darkness just to dim your light for someone who brings slightly less chaos.
💡 Either it’s real, or it’s peace.
That’s the new standard.
If someone doesn’t meet you with emotional depth, mutual respect, and the willingness to grow with you, you have every right to walk away — gently, lovingly, without guilt.
Because your life can still be full, rich, joyful, and meaningful on your own.
Love is a beautiful bonus.
Not a rescue mission.
Not a reward for suffering.
Not a reason to abandon yourself again.
🔁 So repeat after me:
“I would rather wait — or walk alone — than bend myself back into pieces just to be tolerated.”
This time, it’s different.
This time, you choose.
And you will never again trade your peace for proximity.
You’re not here for crumbs anymore.
You’re here for the whole damn meal — or nothing at all.
And either way, you are already enough.
