You know those days where you wake up feeling like you’ve had five coffees before your eyes even opened? Your brain is doing the cha-cha, your heart is trying to be deep and reflective, and your emotions are flipping faster than a Netflix series?
Yeah… today’s one of those days.
It’s funny, isn’t it? One minute you’re laughing at a meme about talking to your plants, the next you’re wondering if you’re secretly broken because your ex used to say you were “too emotional” for feeling things deeply. (Spoiler alert: you’re not broken. You’re just… healing.)
Welcome to the unpredictable, sometimes hilarious, sometimes gut-wrenching emotional mixtape of a trauma bond unraveling.
🎭 Mixed Feelings Are the Headliners
Today I feel happy. And sad. Empowered. Then confused. Then I want cake. Then I want answers. Then I want a nap. And somewhere in the middle of all that, I’m having flashbacks of both good times and gaslighting. A classic feature of trauma bonds: the emotional high-low swing that could win an Olympic medal.
💡Why Does This Happen?
Trauma bonds mess with your brain chemistry. It’s not just emotional — it’s neurochemical. Think: cortisol, adrenaline, dopamine — all the chemical culprits in a toxic love cocktail. Your body got used to chaos being familiar, and when you start detoxing from that drama, it gets… well, weird.
🤹♀️Funny Thought of the Day
I caught myself missing the sound of a toxic ex’s car pulling up… and then remembered I used to hide in the bathroom when I heard it. Trauma brain has selective memory. Thankfully, healing brain is starting to call it out with a sarcastic eyebrow raise.
👣Here’s What I Reminded Myself Today:
- Mixed feelings are normal. You’re not going backwards — you’re unwinding a very tangled knot.
- Your body remembers, even when your mind tries to forget. Be kind to it.
- You’re not crazy — you’re healing. There’s a difference. A big one.
- Laughter is allowed. Just because your healing is sacred doesn’t mean it has to be serious all the time. If your trauma brain wants to listen to sad songs and your healing heart wants to dance in the kitchen — do both. At the same time if you must.
💬 Real Talk:
If today feels like an emotional smoothie made in a blender with no lid… you’re not alone. These messy days are part of the detox. It means the grip of the trauma bond is weakening, and your nervous system is learning what safe feels like. It might be uncomfortable, but it’s a sign of progress.
So if your brain’s doing 100mph and your feelings are throwing a surprise party without your consent, just breathe. Take a walk. Hug a dog. Message a friend. Laugh at how ridiculous healing can feel sometimes.
You’re doing the work. You’re not backsliding. You’re becoming free.
And if nothing else — remember this:
You survived the chaos. You can survive the healing.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
