By Linda C J Turner Therapy
“When an entire family lives in lies and hypocrisy… it’s laughable sometimes — but underneath, it’s actually heartbreaking.”
They’ll swear they’re good people. Tell the world they’re ‘just trying to help’. Smile for the camera. Pretend everything is perfect.
But behind the scenes?
It’s gossip.
It’s manipulation.
It’s denial.
And it’s emotional immaturity, dressed up as ‘family loyalty.’
Why do people live this way? Why build an entire life on performance instead of truth?
It’s simple, really:
Because truth is uncomfortable.
Because truth demands accountability.
It forces them to take a look at themselves — and not everyone is ready for that.
Families like this don’t run on love.
They run on control.
And when someone finally starts telling the truth — really naming the dysfunction — they don’t reflect.
They attack.
They blame.
They gaslight.
They say, “You’ve changed.”
And you know what?
You have.
You’ve grown.
You’ve evolved.
You’ve started asking the one question they fear the most:
“Why are we pretending?”
From a psychological perspective?
This is emotional immaturity.
Low emotional intelligence.
An inability — or refusal — to face inner discomfort.
Families like this often can’t handle vulnerability, because they were never taught how.
So they perform.
They blame.
They protect the lie — even if it destroys their relationships in the process.
And maybe… you were the one who finally saw through it.
Maybe you spoke up — and they turned on you.
Maybe they’ve painted you as “the problem,” when all you ever wanted was honesty.
If that’s you?
You’re not alone.
And you are not crazy.
You’re the pattern breaker.
So let me ask you:
✨ Have you ever been scapegoated for telling the truth?
✨ Do you feel more peace when you step away from the chaos?
✨ Are you choosing growth, even when they stay stuck?
If yes — I want you to hear this:
👏 You are not the problem.
👏 You are the brave one.
👏 You are choosing healing over illusion — and that is something to be proud of.
Let them keep performing if they need to.
You’ve chosen truth.
You’ve chosen peace.
You’ve chosen emotional freedom — and you don’t need their permission to grow.
Your truth doesn’t need their approval.
And your healing? That’s not up for debate.
💛 You’ve come too far to go back now.
If this speaks to you, drop a 💛 in the comments.
Let’s show each other we’re not alone — and that truth-tellers are never the problem. We are the beginning of real change.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
