Once an abuser has strangled you, the dynamic of the relationship permanently shifts—because you now know they are capable of killing you. This isn’t love. This is survival.

💔 You stop feeling safe and start walking on eggshells.
💔 You question every word, every action, trying not to trigger another attack.
💔 You may even convince yourself to stay—because leaving feels just as terrifying.

When a doctor and psychologist tell you to leave for your safety, it is because they see the pattern. They know the statistics. They know what happens next if you stay.

But What If They Threaten to Leave You With Nothing?

🚨 This is financial and emotional abuse designed to keep you trapped. 🚨
If your abuser is saying, “You’ll have nothing if you leave,” they are admitting that their love was never real—only control.

🔴 They are proving that they see you as an object to possess, not a partner to love.
🔴 They are trying to make leaving seem worse than staying.
🔴 They are using fear, not love, to keep you in place.

Breaking Free When You Feel Trapped

Being financially dependent or isolated does not mean you can’t leave—it just means you need a plan.

Step 1: Reach Out for Support (Quietly)

• Call a domestic violence helpline in your area. They can guide you on how to leave safely, even if you have no money or resources.
• Speak to a trusted person (a friend, family member, or someone who believes you).
• If possible, find a safe place to store important documents (passport, ID, financial records).

Step 2: Gather Information & Resources

• Look into legal protections. Many countries have laws that prevent an abuser from leaving you with nothing, even if they threaten it.
• If they’ve controlled your finances, see if there are emergency funds or support services in your area.
• Research shelters or safe houses—some provide legal, financial, and emotional support for people escaping abuse.

Step 3: Prepare to Leave Safely

• Do NOT announce your plan. Abusers often escalate when they sense they are losing control.
• Try to leave when they are not home or distracted.
• If you have access to a phone, save emergency numbers under a safe name.

Step 4: Protect Yourself From Retaliation

• Block their number and social media after leaving.
• Get a restraining order if possible.
• Surround yourself with safe people who will protect you from their manipulation.

Reality Check: You Are Not Trapped—They Just Want You to Believe You Are

💡 They only have power if you stay. The moment you leave, they lose control.
💡 You will rebuild, even if you have nothing at first.
💡 You are not alone—there is always help available, even in a foreign country.

🚨 Strangulation is a death threat. Threatening to leave you with nothing is just another form of violence. Do not let them scare you into staying. 🚨

You can escape.
You will rebuild.
And one day, you’ll look back and realize you were never powerless. ❤️