Falling for someone who doesn’t seem to notice or appreciate you fully can be a deeply emotional experience. It can feel like pouring your heart into a connection that only exists in your imagination. You might daydream about what could be, only to be reminded that the other person doesn’t seem to see you in the same way—or perhaps doesn’t see you at all.

This can bring up feelings of longing, sadness, or even frustration. It’s hard to reconcile the emotions that pull you toward someone with the reality of their indifference or distance. And when you care deeply for someone, it’s natural to hope for them to reciprocate. You might find yourself analyzing every word, every interaction, looking for signs that they might feel the same way.

But here’s the truth: love, at its healthiest, should never make you feel invisible or unworthy. If someone can’t—or won’t—see you for who you are and all the beauty you bring to the table, it doesn’t diminish your worth. It’s not a reflection of any inadequacy in you; it’s simply that their attention, readiness, or priorities may be elsewhere.

The best relationships are mutual, where both people see each other deeply and willingly show up for one another. It’s okay to feel the sting of unrequited feelings, but it’s also important to take care of your heart. Instead of holding on to someone who can’t see you, shift your focus toward people who do—or could. The right person will not only see you but will cherish and value you for exactly who you are.