There seems to be a fascinating species that appears whenever accountability comes knocking. Meet The Joker. Not the one from the movies—the one who performs astonishing mental gymnastics to convince everyone they’re the innocent victim while leaving a trail of emotional destruction behind them. According to The Joker, they have never lied, never manipulated, never shouted,… Read More The Joker’s Guide to Looking Whiter Than White
This year, I’ve been to every local fiesta, celebration, concert, and community event in my town. For the first time in many years, I stayed until I wanted to leave. I laughed without looking over my shoulder. I joined in without worrying about being criticised. I enjoyed the music, the atmosphere, and the company without… Read More Freedom Feels Different: The Neuroscience of Living Without Control
Have you ever met someone who seems to carry around an invisible scoreboard? They know what everyone else earns. What everyone else paid for their house. Who’s driving a new car. Who’s on holiday. Who’s drinking champagne. Who’s ordered the expensive steak. Who’s paying the bill. They know everything… …except how to enjoy themselves. Some… Read More The Secret Scorekeepers of Life
SEXUAL & DESIRE-BASED SHADOWS View • Reblog The Shadow Self View • Reblog ❓Is wanting to hear from someone more than once a day “too much”? View • Reblog 🌟 What is this feeling?! 🌟When you’ve never felt it before… and suddenly, you do. View • Reblog “The Warm Light of Love: When Peace Feels Like Home” View • Reblog “When He Doesn’t Text Back and You’ve Already Planned… Read More 2025 – July
Have you ever noticed how the mood of the people around you affects your own? Spend enough time with someone who complains constantly, criticises everyone, expects the worst, and finds fault in every situation, and eventually you begin to feel the weight of it yourself. The atmosphere becomes heavy. Conversations become repetitive. Joy disappears almost… Read More Misery Loves Misery. Laughter Is Contagious.
It’s the simple things that make the biggest difference. Having choices. Deciding where to go, what to eat, how long to stay, and who to spend time with—without fear or guilt. Being able to join in with the fun without worrying about the cost, being criticised for spending money, or watching the clock because someone… Read More You don’t realise how much of yourself you’ve lost until you’re free.
When I recovered the backup drive after the computer had been wiped, I wasn’t simply recovering digital files. I was recovering part of my own history. For years, I had kept documents, photographs, correspondence, and records that helped me make sense of what I had lived through. Some of those files became important evidence during… Read More The Backup Drive: Recovering More Than Files
People often ask me when I’m going to write my book. My answer is always the same. I’m waiting for the divorce to be finalised. For a long time, I simply wasn’t ready to write it. After decades of living with abuse, my priority wasn’t telling my story—it was healing from it. Trauma recovery takes… Read More Waiting for the Final Chapter Before I Write the Next One
People notice far more than we sometimes realise. They notice whether a home is cared for. They notice whether responsibilities are shared. They notice whether one partner carries the weight of running the household while the other remains largely absent from family life. They notice when there seems to be little investment in the family… Read More Actions Speak Louder Than Words
People often ask what it’s like to leave an abusive relationship. They imagine dramatic moments. The shouting. The arguments. The obvious acts of abuse. But recovery is often found in something much quieter. It begins with a simple sentence. “I will never do that again.” I will never again pick dirty towels up from a… Read More The Things I Will Never Do Again
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 