High-Risk vs Manageable Behaviour: What Professionals Look For

When psychologists or risk assessors use tools like the HCR-20 or PCL-R, they are not guessing — they are looking for specific patterns that predict escalation or persistence. 🚩 High-Risk Red Flags These are the behaviours that raise serious concern because they are linked to ongoing or escalating harm: 1. Persistence Over Time 👉 Indicates: deeply ingrained behaviour, not situational 2.… Read More High-Risk vs Manageable Behaviour: What Professionals Look For

“What Was It Like Living in France?”

A Slightly Honest… Slightly Dramatic Answer People often ask me: “What was it like living in France?” And without missing a beat, I usually reply: “Like solitary confinement… for 16 years.” Now, I know that sounds completely absurd. A bit dramatic.Possibly questionable.Definitely not something you’d expect someone to say about living in France. But honestly?… Read More “What Was It Like Living in France?”

A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Matters More Than Leaving

Sometimes clarity doesn’t come from big decisions or dramatic moments. It comes quietly — in the middle of a good weekend, surrounded by the right people, in a place that simply feels… right. And suddenly you realise: This is why I need to stay. The Power of Familiarity There is something deeply stabilising about familiarity.… Read More A Quiet Realisation: Why Staying Matters More Than Leaving

When Life Feels Light Again: The Power of a Perfect Weekend

Every now and then, life gives you a moment that reminds you how it’s meant to feel. A perfect weekend isn’t about luxury or perfection — it’s about energy. The kind that feels easy, natural, and real. The kind that doesn’t need effort. It’s good friends.It’s music in the background.It’s sunshine on your face.It’s laughter that comes… Read More When Life Feels Light Again: The Power of a Perfect Weekend

When You Start Enjoying Life Again (Without Overthinking It)

There’s a moment after a relationship ends when things begin to feel… different. Not in a dramatic, life-changing way.But quietly. Subtly. You walk into a place you know well, see familiar faces, hear the same laughter—and realise something has shifted. You’re not carrying the same weight anymore. The Unexpected Return of You At first, it’s… Read More When You Start Enjoying Life Again (Without Overthinking It)

From Waiting… to Re-Engaging with Life

“God’s waiting room” is a state of pause that goes too far. It’s when the mind and body stop reaching forward. The future feels closed, identity feels uncertain, and energy turns inward instead of outward. A warrior’s heart does something different. Not louder. Not harder. Just… different. It re-engages. The psychological shift In Psychology, the difference comes… Read More From Waiting… to Re-Engaging with Life

A Life Reclaimed

There was a time when everything felt heavy. Not loud. Not dramatic.Just constant pressure under the surface of everything. Communication felt like tension.Decisions felt blocked before they were even made.And no matter how much energy was given, it never quite moved things forward — it only circled back into the same patterns. It wasn’t confusion… Read More A Life Reclaimed

The Negotiation Circus: A Case Study in the Moving Goalpost Effect

There are negotiations that feel structured, linear, and predictable. And then there are negotiations that feel like: “Yes 👍 … just kidding 🙂 … actually no … wait yes … but also no … but let’s revisit this later.” Welcome to the circus. Act One: The Confident “Yes” The opening act is always smooth. “Yes,… Read More The Negotiation Circus: A Case Study in the Moving Goalpost Effect