Here’s a simple, modern, day-to-day guide to Buddhist teachings, showing how each principle can be applied in everyday life: 1. Understand Suffering (Four Noble Truths) Daily Application: Notice when you’re stressed, frustrated, or unhappy. Instead of blaming others or yourself, pause and observe: What desire or expectation is causing this discomfort? 2. Let Go of Clinging (Attachment and Impermanence)… Read More Understand Suffering (Four Noble Truths)
If emotions are contagious, why didn’t my positivity “rub off” on the abuser? Why did their negativity weigh me down more than my joy lifted them up? Why Abusers Don’t Catch Positivity: The Science of Negativity Bias and Emotional Contagion For three decades you lived with a manic, toxic abuser and yet managed to protect… Read More Negativity Has a Head Start in the Brain
What It Is Emotional contagion is the process by which we unconsciously “pick up” and mirror the emotions of people around us. Just like a yawn spreads in a room, so does a laugh, a sigh, or a heavy silence. We’re wired to absorb others’ feelings — it’s part of being human. Psychologists define emotional… Read More Emotional Contagion: How We “Catch” Feelings From Others
One year can change everything. After decades of heaviness, control, and restriction, I now find myself living in a different world — one filled with laughter, lightness, and the kind of play I thought was lost to me forever. Nights stretch long with music turned up loud, dancing and singing under the stars, laughter echoing… Read More One Year On: Reclaiming Life, Playfulness, and Joy
Some families seem to have an endless script of ailments: one week it’s a back problem, the next a digestive issue, then headaches, then fatigue. The list never ends, and nothing ever truly resolves. Doctor visits and prescriptions become the rhythm of life, with conversations revolving around symptoms, scans, and “what might be wrong this… Read More When Life Revolves Around Illness: Escaping the Cycle of Hypochondria
Some people seem to have an uncanny knack for draining the light from a room. They roll their eyes at others’ happiness, criticize celebrations, and find ways to dampen moments that should be filled with laughter and connection. These “killjoys” don’t always realize the harm they cause, but their impact is real: they create toxic… Read More Escaping the Killjoy: Psychology and Neuroscience of Those Who Spoil Joy
Sometimes the people around us don’t see what we see. Friends may raise eyebrows, outsiders may question, and logic may list reasons why a relationship “shouldn’t” work. And yet—when you look into someone’s eyes and feel warmth, safety, and a resonance you can’t fake—you know. This knowing is not wishful thinking. It is rooted in… Read More The Science of Knowing: When Connection Feels Undeniably Right
When friends notice that you look better, lighter, more relaxed after leaving a marriage that caused chronic stress, they’re really picking up on deep physiological and neurological changes. Here’s why: 🔬 Neuroscience: The Stress Imprint on the Body and Face 🧠 Psychology: Emotional Weight vs. Freedom ✨ In short:Your friends aren’t just saying you “look better” — they’re… Read More 🔬 Neuroscience: The Stress Imprint on the Body and Face
When you’ve lived through trauma, uncertainty itself can feel unsafe. That’s why dealing with evasive people — those who dodge questions, give vague answers, or go silent — can be so triggering. Your nervous system craves clarity, yet their avoidance creates confusion that echoes old wounds. Here are 5 trauma-informed strategies to help you protect… Read More 🛡️ 5 Trauma-Informed Steps for Handling Evasive People
Many clients ask me how to recognise an abuser. My own story is a painful example—I spent decades in an abusive relationship, cut off from friends and family, convinced for years that it was love. Only when the abuse became physical and uncontrollable did my doctors and psychologist urge me to leave for my own… Read More Medication, Libido, and Abuse: The Neuroscience Behind a Hidden Struggle
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 