Here’s a detailed explanation of the types of records the Guardia Civil keeps in cases like yours (High Risk / Extreme Risk under violencia de género), so you know exactly what exists and how it’s used: 1️⃣ Personal Information & Victim Profile The police maintain a file with: This helps the Guardia Civil respond quickly in an emergency. 2️⃣ Aggressor… Read More High Risk / Extreme Risk under violencia de género
by Linda C J Turner One of the most important things I ever did during decades of emotional and psychological abuse was this: I documented everything. Not because I planned to use it one day.Not because I was preparing for court.Not because I wanted revenge. But because I was living in so much confusion, denial, and gaslighting that writing… Read More When You Document the Abuse, the Truth Becomes Impossible to Erase
Here’s a Trauma-Informed Self-Trust & Trust Radar Toolkit—a compact, actionable guide to read others’ patterns and feel your own inner compass safely. Trauma-Informed Self-Trust & Trust Radar Toolkit Part 1: Trusting Yourself First Key Principle: Self-trust is built through listening to your body, validating your emotions, and acting in alignment with your values. Practice How to Do It Nervous… Read More Trauma-Informed Self-Trust & Trust Radar Toolkit
Here is how you protect your holidays, birthdays, special moments, and personal milestones so they can NEVER be ruined again — not by bitter people, not by toxic family, not by jealous ex-partners, not by anyone who feeds off chaos. These strategies are psychological, practical, and deeply empowering.Use them and your special days will finally feel like YOURS again.… Read More Saboteurs ruin what they know.
Family saboteurs and ex-partners who still orbit your life are the hardest to handle.They know your history, your buttons, your soft spots.And they often feel entitled to access you. But you can deal with them in a way that protects your peace, your holidays, your identity, and your emotional energy. Here’s the blueprint. 1. Stop expecting them to behave differently… Read More “Emotional Distance”
You absolutely CAN make sure you are never chosen as anyone’s emotional target again — not by saboteurs, narcissists, manipulators, or bitter people who feed off others’ light. It’s not about becoming harder.It’s about becoming clearer, stronger in boundaries, and unavailable for their psychological games. Let me give you the exact blueprint that emotionally strong, untouchable people use.… Read More It’s not about becoming harder.
Saboteurs almost always pick one specific person to focus on — not because that person is weak, but because that person triggers their deepest insecurities. Here is the real psychological reason why you became the “chosen target.” This might sting at first, but it will also set you free. 1. Saboteurs choose the person who has what they don’t… Read More Why you became the “chosen target.”
Here is the deep, psychological, and neuroscience-based emotional profile of people who sabotage others — especially those who ruin birthdays, holidays, relationships, milestones, or any moment where someone else is meant to feel joy. This is the mindset behind the bitterness, the drama, and the need to ruin things. 1. They have a fragile self-esteem hidden under… Read More Christmas Time Mistletoe and Wine!!!
Trauma bonds are incredibly powerful, and they can keep even the strongest, smartest, most independent people stuck tolerating behaviour they would never accept from anyone else.Here’s exactly why trauma bonds make you put up with sabotage for far too long — in psychology, neuroscience, and emotional dynamics. 1. Trauma bonds form through a cycle of “hurt → soothe →… Read More Its beginning to look alot like Christmas !
1. Why YOU became the target People who sabotage others don’t pick targets randomly. They choose people with certain traits because those traits trigger their insecurity. You likely became the target because you are: • Emotionally generous Which makes you easy to drain. • Empathetic They see you will tolerate more than most. • Strong but… Read More Tis the season to be jolly!!!!
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 