It is easy for people to point fingers when they do not know the full story. But what often looks like “moving away from family” is sometimes the result of something much deeper—manipulation, coercion, and emotional control. When isolation is not a choice In some situations, people are gradually influenced or pressured into distancing themselves… Read More Don’t Judge What You Don’t Understand
If someone consistently shows several of these patterns, it can indicate high-risk behaviour: 🔹 1. Ongoing high-conflict legal battles 👉 Pattern matters more than who “started it” 🔹 2. Blaming ex-partners for everything 👉 This can indicate externalised blame patterns 🔹 3. Repeated breaches of boundaries or orders 👉 This is serious if proven — it… Read More What can be warning signs of abusive or controlling behaviour
A — ANOVA (Analysis of Variance) Statistical test used to compare means across 3+ groups.👉 Used in research to see if differences are real or random. B — Big Five Personality Traits (OCEAN) C — Cognitive Dissonance (Leon Festinger) Mental discomfort when beliefs and actions don’t align.👉 Drives behaviour change or justification. D — DSM-5 (Diagnostic… Read More A–Z of Psychological Tests & Concepts
For decades, the brain seeks safety, and often we listen. We make the “safe” choice, follow the familiar path, and convince ourselves it is security. Neuroscience reveals why: the amygdala—the brain’s early-warning system—flags uncertainty as threat, while the prefrontal cortex weighs risk versus reward. Yet what feels “safe” is often just habitual; it does not… Read More Rewiring for Freedom: Stepping Beyond the Comfort Zone
Dating can feel like navigating a maze of personalities. While no one fits perfectly into a box, there are certain types of men that show up time and time again. Recognising them early can save you time, energy, and emotional confusion. 💬 The Flirtatious One Charming in the moment, playful, and full of compliments. He knows how… Read More The Different Types of Men You Meet in Dating (And How to Recognise Them)
1. The Manipulator Core trait: Control through emotion and psychology What they do: Typical phrases: 👉 Goal: keep you emotionally hooked and off-balance 🎭 2. The Joker / Charmer Core trait: Avoids depth through humour and charm What they do: Looks harmless, but: 👉 Not always malicious—but often emotionally unavailable 💔 3. The User Core trait: Self-serving What they do: Pattern: 👉… Read More 🔍 The early warning signs
In a new relationship, how often you see each other can make a big difference in building a healthy connection without overwhelming the bond. Neuroscience and psychology give us some insight into pacing. 1. The Science Behind Early Connection 2. Psychological Considerations 3. Guidelines for a New Relationship 4. Red Flags of “Too Much Too Soon” 5. Red Flags of “Too… Read More Guidelines for a New Relationship
Misunderstandings are very common in new relationships. When two people are just getting to know each other, their brains are still learning each other’s communication style, emotional needs, and boundaries. Both psychology and neuroscience help explain why this happens. 1. The brain is filling in the gaps In the early stages of a relationship, we don’t yet have… Read More Getting to know you?
In relationships, human behaviour often works like a mirror. What we project outward frequently comes back to us in similar form. If we communicate with warmth, openness and respect, those qualities tend to invite the same response. But when we project coldness, distance or hostility, it is not surprising when the response we receive feels… Read More The Energy We Give Is Often the Energy We Receive
When an abusive or highly controlling long-term marriage ends, the psychological processes in the abusive partner’s brain can look very different from those in the person who experienced the abuse. Research in Psychology and Neuroscience shows several patterns that often occur. Not every abusive person reacts the same way, but there are some common dynamics. 1. Loss of Control Triggers… Read More Loss of Control Triggers a Psychological Crisis
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 