Category: LINDA C J TURNER – Trauma Therapist

When Illness Becomes a Source of Sympathy: Be Careful What You Wish For

There is a very human instinct to feel compassion when someone tells us they are seriously unwell. Cancer, chronic illness and serious health difficulties naturally evoke concern, empathy and a desire to help. But what happens when illness becomes repeatedly used to gain sympathy, attention, forgiveness, financial assistance or exemption from accountability? This is where… Read More When Illness Becomes a Source of Sympathy: Be Careful What You Wish For

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Entitlement, learned attitudes toward money, attachment, and family dynamics.

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

There is an interesting psychological phenomenon behind this, particularly when adult children suddenly become attentive when they believe an inheritance is imminent. It can reveal a great deal about entitlement, learned attitudes toward money, attachment, and family dynamics. The psychology of “inheritance behaviour” When a parent is perceived as having substantial assets, the relationship can subtly… Read More Entitlement, learned attitudes toward money, attachment, and family dynamics.

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When People Refuse to Face the Consequences: The Psychology of Avoidance, Accountability and Emotional Courage

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

There is something deeply revealing about the way a person behaves when life becomes uncomfortable. Some people face difficult situations head-on. They attend the difficult conversation, answer the questions, acknowledge what has happened and accept that their actions have consequences. Others disappear. They avoid the conversation. They don’t attend the meeting. They refuse to engage… Read More When People Refuse to Face the Consequences: The Psychology of Avoidance, Accountability and Emotional Courage

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Karmic Cycle

Partial solar eclipse over a mountainous landscape with a village and five people observing

There is a real astronomical event behind that statement, but the “karmic cycle” part belongs to spirituality/astrology rather than established science. The timing is especially interesting because yesterday, 12 August 2026, there was a total solar eclipse visible from parts of Spain. NASA confirms that it occurred because the Sun, Moon and Earth aligned, with the Moon passing directly… Read More Karmic Cycle

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Healthy vulnerability 

This is a powerful subject, particularly because children don’t learn emotional resilience from watching adults pretend that nothing hurts. They learn it by watching adults experience difficult emotions and handle them safely. There is an important distinction between healthy vulnerability and making a child responsible for an adult’s emotional wellbeing. A parent doesn’t need to tell a child… Read More Healthy vulnerability 

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What If We Taught Empathy as Seriously as We Teach Mathematics?

Imagine a school where children aren’t only taught how to solve mathematical problems, read books and pass examinations. Imagine a school where they are also taught how to understand another person’s feelings. How to recognise fear behind anger. How to notice when somebody is withdrawing. How to listen without immediately judging. How to disagree without… Read More What If We Taught Empathy as Seriously as We Teach Mathematics?

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Guardia Civil

What happened tonight sounds significant. The Guardia Civil were able to see your circumstances for themselves rather than relying solely on what they had previously been told. They could see that you were living alone, safely, in a small apartment, and that the reality in front of them did not fit a narrative about you being… Read More Guardia Civil

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Keeping Your Relationship Safe Through Control and Money? Really?

If you believe you can keep a relationship safe by controlling your partner, controlling the money, restricting their choices or making them financially dependent on you, you haven’t created security. You’ve created control. A healthy relationship isn’t held together by fear of financial consequences. It isn’t protected by making sure your partner has nowhere to… Read More Keeping Your Relationship Safe Through Control and Money? Really?

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What You Put Into the World Has a Habit of Finding Its Way Back

There is an old saying: “What goes around comes around.” Some people call it karma. Others call it consequences. Some simply say, “It will come back to bite you.” Whatever you call it, there is something about life that makes dishonesty, betrayal and cruelty difficult to outrun forever. Not necessarily because some mysterious force is… Read More What You Put Into the World Has a Habit of Finding Its Way Back

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