Sometimes partners don’t want to spend the holidays together — but the reasons can vary. Here’s how to tell the difference between benign circumstances and potential emotional manipulation: Benign Reasons ✅ Key sign: They communicate openly, show effort to celebrate together another way, and acknowledge your feelings. Red Flags / Emotional Manipulation ⚠️ Key sign: Their absence leaves… Read More Red Flags / Emotional Manipulation

There can be many reasons a partner might not want to spend Christmas with you, ranging from personal circumstances to relationship dynamics. Here’s a trauma-informed, psychology-based breakdown of common factors: 1. Emotional Avoidance 2. Relationship Dynamics 3. Control or Manipulation 4. Personal Circumstances 5. Emotional Immaturity or Self-Centeredness 6. Pattern Recognition Reflection

Ever notice how some people keep ending up in the same kind of unhealthy relationships, making similar mistakes, or choosing situations that feel familiar — even if they hurt? That’s what psychologists call repetition compulsion. It’s a concept from psychodynamic therapy that explains how our past experiences, especially early trauma, can unconsciously influence our choices today. How It… Read More Repetition Compulsion: Why We Keep Repeating the Same Patterns

In Spain, a restraining order is called an “Orden de Protección” (Protection Order) or sometimes a “Medida de Protección” in legal documents related to domestic violence (Violencia de Género). What It Is and What It Does Travel Safety Reminder Important Documents to Keep with You Being prepared with your Protection Order and other key documents ensures your legal protection and safety even when… Read More Important Documents to Keep with YouI

Before You Leave Spain:✅ Inform the Guardia Civil of your travel plans (departure date, destination, expected return).✅ Confirm that your restraining order and VIOGEN protections remain active until departure.✅ Fully charge your VIOGEN phone/device and test emergency numbers.✅ Pack essential items: ID, important documents, medications, and emergency contacts.✅ Avoid posting travel details publicly on social media.✅ Prepare a safety… Read More Holiday Travel Safety Checklist for Women under VIOGEN with Restraining Orders

The holiday season can be a high-risk time for survivors of domestic abuse. If you’re planning to travel outside Spain, it’s important to take precautions — even if you already have protection measures in place through the VIOGEN system. 1. Notify the Authorities Before You Travel 2. Maintain Protection During Travel 3. Keep Your VIOGEN… Read More Holiday Travel Safety for Survivors of Domestic Violence in Spain

The holiday season can be a high-risk time for survivors of domestic abuse. Many domestic violence centres report an escalation in threats or controlling behaviours during holidays, including inquiries about your whereabouts. Here’s what you can do to stay safe: Remember: prioritizing your safety is the most important thing. The holidays are for you to feel secure… Read More Finding a Safe Place for Christmas: Holiday Safety Tips for Survivors of Domestic Violence