Reaching a settlement of the bare minimum I am legally entitled to—no surprise there. After 32 years, I didn’t expect anything more. Legally, it may be 50%.But law and lived experience are not the same thing. Power, control, and imbalance shape what people walk away with in reality—not just paperwork. After a lifetime, what you… Read More Taking your life back

Bare minimum.That’s what it was after 32 years—and that’s what it stayed. No shock there. But this was never about money. It was about getting out.About surviving something that slowly takes pieces of you.About choosing freedom even when it costs you everything familiar. The milestones aren’t loud.They’re in the quiet moments—when your head finally feels… Read More Bare minimum

🟣 “No és no” Campaign (It means No) 👉 Focus: consent, bystander awareness, immediate reporting 🟪 Puntos Violeta (Purple Points) 👉 Often present in: 🧡 “Espacios Seguros” (Safe Spaces Initiative) These places display signs showing they are safe points if someone feels threatened. 👉 Quiet but powerful—help is embedded in everyday places 🏙️ Local Council Campaigns (Alicante & Marina Alta area)… Read More Valencian Community (Comunitat Valenciana)

But this isn’t happening somewhere else.It’s happening here. In our towns. In our communities. Across the Costa Blanca, there are “Puntos Violeta” at events.Posters that say “No és no.”Safe spaces in bars and shops.Campaigns in schools teaching young people about respect and control. These things exist for a reason. Because harassment is happening in nightlife.Because coercion… Read More We talk about rising abuse.We see the headlines.We read the reports.

1. Make the decision harder to undo Don’t rely on willpower alone—use structure. 🧠 If contact is effortless, relapse is more likely. 2. Write your “truth anchor” note Keep one note on your phone titled: “Why I’m not going back” Include: Read it only when urges hit. 3. Prepare for predictable triggers Urges usually spike when:… Read More No-Contact Relapse Prevention Plan

1. Pause the impulse (do not act immediately) Urges feel urgent—but they peak and pass like a wave. 🧠 Rule: If it’s intense, it’s not the time to act. 2. Name what’s actually happening Say (out loud if possible): “This is an emotional wave, not a decision.” What you’re feeling may be: 3. Anchor to reality… Read More Emergency Survival Guide: When You Feel the Urge to Go Back