For a long time, I questioned my own judgement because I was repeatedly presented with stories, explanations and accusations that simply did not make sense. Over time, however, documents, reports, emails, recordings and independent evidence began to paint a very different picture. Two years later, many of the claims that caused so much confusion can… Read More When Actions and Evidence Don’t Match the Story
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As I reflect on the last eighteen months, one word keeps coming to mind: gratitude. Not because the journey has been easy. It hasn’t. Not because every person I encountered treated me with kindness. They didn’t. But because every experience, every challenge, every disappointment, and every act of support revealed something important. I am grateful to… Read More Gratitude for the Lessons
There are moments in life when you look around and realise that, despite everything that has happened, you have made it through. This week was one of those moments for me. It was a week filled with simple pleasures and meaningful connections. Meals out at some wonderful restaurants, long conversations with friends, neighbours and special… Read More Living the Dream at Last: Eighteen Months of Letting Go and Moving Forward
“Not my circus, not my monkeys” is a phrase people often use when they emotionally step out of chaos, dysfunction, or other people’s drama. Psychologically, it reflects: After long periods of conflict or emotional overload, the brain often shifts from: In neuroscience terms, chronic stress can keep the threat system activated for months or years.… Read More Not my circus, not my monkeys
When concerns are supported by multiple witnesses, messages, photographs, videos, or mobile phone evidence, safeguarding agencies and professional bodies will usually look at: In safeguarding investigations, a pattern supported by independent sources often carries more weight than a single allegation alone. Professionals may compare: Psychologically, when “the truth comes to light” after prolonged secrecy, families… Read More Safeguarding Investigations
If underage children are around adults you believe may be unsafe in the UK, concerns can be reported through several safeguarding routes depending on the urgency and nature of the risk. Immediate Danger If a child is in immediate danger or you believe a crime may be occurring: Non-Emergency Safeguarding Concerns You can report concerns… Read More Vulnerable Children
In the United Kingdom, concerns about teachers, safeguarding staff, social workers, or professionals working with children can be reported through several official channels depending on the role and seriousness of the allegations. Reporting Teachers in England The main professional body is the Teaching Regulation Agency (TRA). They investigate serious professional misconduct including: You can report concerns… Read More Reporting Teachers in England
When someone works in safeguarding, education, healthcare, social care, law enforcement, or another position of trust, but is simultaneously hiding abuse or remaining silent about it, the psychological impact on victims and witnesses can feel especially profound because it creates a deep sense of betrayal and hypocrisy. In psychology this can relate to: For children,… Read More Safeguarding
Bribing, manipulating, threatening, or blackmailing children to keep quiet about harmful behaviour is considered a serious form of emotional coercion and can itself be psychologically abusive. Children are neurologically and emotionally dependent on adults, so they are especially vulnerable to pressure involving: From a neuroscience perspective, this kind of coercion activates chronic stress and fear… Read More Bribing, manipulating, threatening
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 