Understanding Why Some Women Seek Comfort Elsewhere During an Abusive Relationship

For much of my life, I believed that having an affair under any circumstances was completely wrong. It seemed like a clear-cut issue with no exceptions. However, after healing from abuse and working closely with psychologists and trauma specialists, my understanding of human behaviour has become far more nuanced. To be clear, this is not… Read More Understanding Why Some Women Seek Comfort Elsewhere During an Abusive Relationship

June 1, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Reward and Motivation Systems

From a psychology and neuroscience perspective, it’s important not to assume that everyone who lives from inherited wealth has the same motives or character. Some inherited wealth and continue working, contributing to society, volunteering, running businesses, or pursuing meaningful goals. However, when someone becomes excessively focused on inheritance, constantly discussing who will inherit, what assets are… Read More Reward and Motivation Systems

May 31, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment

Social Comparison

When money becomes the focus of nearly every conversation, it often reflects something deeper than simple curiosity about finances. There can be several psychological reasons: Security and Survival For some people, money represents safety. If they grew up with financial insecurity, they may constantly assess what things cost, what people earn, and who owns what… Read More Social Comparison

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A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy.

A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy. When someone says things like “she was never a Samaritan, she was just a gold digger” why would she be interested in someone 25 years her senior? Without evidence, several psychological processes can be at work: Projection People sometimes attribute motives to others that reflect their own way of thinking.… Read More A pattern of judgment, projection, and hypocrisy.

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When the Mind Plays Tricks: Revisiting Places, Reclaiming Memories

You see an old photograph. A beautiful beach. A mountain village. A bustling city square. A restaurant overlooking the sea. For a moment, your mind remembers the sunshine, the laughter, the excitement of discovering somewhere new. You find yourself talking to a friend about that special place, recalling the scenery, the food, the experience. Then,… Read More When the Mind Plays Tricks: Revisiting Places, Reclaiming Memories

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“I doubt he’ll kill you.”

One of the most damaging responses a victim can hear is, “I doubt he’ll kill you.” Most people who say this are not being malicious. They simply cannot imagine that someone they know, a family member, friend, colleague, or neighbour, could be capable of such an act. They judge the situation through the lens of… Read More “I doubt he’ll kill you.”

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“I honestly feel like Butler will kill me if further action is not taken. I am constantly afraid of leaving my house.”

The story of 48-year-old Plymouth nurse and lecturer Claire Chick is one of the clearest and most devastating examples of the dangers of stalking, coercive control, and domestic abuse escalation. Claire repeatedly sought help. Court proceedings heard that she contacted police six times in the months before her death, reporting harassment, stalking, threats, unwanted contact,… Read More “I honestly feel like Butler will kill me if further action is not taken. I am constantly afraid of leaving my house.”

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Posts from this day, May 31- 2025. 🌷

2025 “Am I Falling in Love… or Just Losing My Mind?” View • The Eyes: Windows to the Soul and Storytellers of the Unspoken View • The Uncomplicated People: Truth Tellers, Deep Listeners, and Emotional Lifelines View • What I Will No Longer Accept View • The New Me… or Perhaps, the Old Me Returning View • With Deepest Gratitude:… Read More Posts from this day, May 31- 2025. 🌷

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Metamorphosis

From Caterpillar to Butterfly: A Journey of Transformation If I had to describe the past eighteen months in a single image, it would be the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly. From the outside, people see the butterfly. They see confidence, smiles, independence, and a life that appears to be flourishing. What they don’t… Read More Metamorphosis

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Grounding Exercises

If you’re feeling pulled in many directions, exercises that combine the body, breath, and attention can help you feel calmer, more grounded, and more centred. 1. 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Exercise Use your senses to anchor yourself in the present moment. This helps shift attention away from racing thoughts and back to your immediate surroundings. 2. Box… Read More Grounding Exercises

May 30, 2026 Linda C J TurnerLeave a comment