INITIAL FEEL
Entitlement
- Intensity with pressure
- Feels consuming, urgent, slightly destabilising
- You feel chosen but also subtly managed
Attraction Chemistry
- Intensity with curiosity
- Feels energising, playful, expansive
- You feel interested, not claimed
PACE
Entitlement
- Pushes for speed (time, intimacy, access)
- Resists natural pacing or pauses
- Urgency framed as “connection”
Attraction Chemistry
- Comfortable with rhythm
- Lets things unfold
- Excitement without demand
RESPONSE TO YOUR BOUNDARIES
Entitlement
- Negotiates, questions, or reframes your limits
- Interprets “no” as personal
- Uses disappointment, charm, or pressure
Attraction Chemistry
- Accepts limits easily
- Adjusts without emotional fallout
- Doesn’t need justification
ATTENTION STYLE
Entitlement
- Focused on access to you
- Attention narrows and intensifies
- Interest drops when access is limited
Attraction Chemistry
- Focused on knowing you
- Attention is warm but spacious
- Interest remains steady despite limits
EMOTIONAL DIRECTION
Entitlement
- You feel subtly responsible for their feelings
- You start managing tone, timing, reassurance
- Emotional labour tilts toward you
Attraction Chemistry
- Emotional responsibility stays shared
- No need to manage or placate
- Mutual ease
LANGUAGE CLUES
Entitlement
- “I need / I expect”
- “After all I’ve done…”
- “You should understand”
Attraction Chemistry
- “I’d like / I’m curious”
- “Does this work for you?”
- “We can adjust”
NERVOUS SYSTEM SIGNALS (YOURS)
Entitlement
- Tight chest or stomach
- Urge to explain, soften, or over-give
- Slight self-doubt after contact
Attraction Chemistry
- Relaxed alertness
- Grounded excitement
- You feel more yourself, not less
HOW IT EVOLVES OVER TIME
Entitlement
- Intensifies → controls → destabilises
- Boundaries trigger conflict
- Connection depends on compliance
Attraction Chemistry
- Deepens → stabilises → integrates
- Boundaries increase trust
- Connection grows with mutual respect
The single most reliable tell
Attraction enjoys you.
Entitlement needs you.
Enjoyment is light.
Need is heavy.
Why they get confused early
Both can activate:
- dopamine (novelty)
- attention focus
- emotional charge
But only entitlement activates pressure + control circuits alongside attraction.
Your body notices first.
If the chemistry asks you to shrink, hurry, reassure, or override yourself — that’s not attraction. That’s access-seeking.
