🧠 1. Your brain did not consent to this role
Unsolicited disclosure recruits your nervous system without permission.
Neuroscience:
- The amygdala cannot distinguish between chosen and imposed threat.
- Repeated contact keeps your stress system activated.
- Blocking stops ongoing threat signalling.
You are closing an open stress loop.
🧠 2. Ongoing contact creates “false responsibility”
Psychology shows that once contact continues, the brain begins to feel:
- Responsible
- Accountable
- Involved
Even if you intellectually reject this, your nervous system doesn’t.
Blocking prevents role contamination.
🧠 3. Boundary enforcement restores control
Trauma removes agency.
Boundaries restore it.
Blocking:
- Reasserts control
- Signals safety to the nervous system
- Stops emotional bleed-through
This is active regulation, not withdrawal.
Why would someone you barely know involve you at all?
This is the key psychological question — and the answer is rarely about you.
Here are the most common reasons.
1. They are seeking emotional offloading
Many people disclose not to create justice, but to:
- Relieve guilt
- Reduce anxiety
- Share a burden
Psychology:
Disclosure can be a form of self-soothing, not accountability.
You became a convenient outlet.
2. They believe you are “safe”
After separation, you are perceived as:
- No longer controlled
- More credible
- Less threatening
They unconsciously think:
“She can handle this.”
That belief ignores your wellbeing entirely.
3. They want absolution, not action
Some people want to say:
- “I told someone”
- “I did my part”
Neuroscience:
- Confession reduces internal stress.
- It transfers discomfort from them to you.
Blocking stops that transfer.
4. They are avoiding direct responsibility
Going to authorities requires:
- Commitment
- Exposure
- Risk
Telling you feels easier and safer.
Psychologically:
This is responsibility avoidance disguised as concern.
Redirecting — and then disengaging — puts responsibility back where it belongs.
5. They are testing reactions
In some cases, people are:
- Testing how serious things are
- Gauging potential fallout
- Checking alignment
Once you disengage, that channel closes.
Why blocking is the correct endpoint
From neuroscience, closure matters.
If you:
- Redirected them to authorities
- Did not engage emotionally
- Did not ask questions
Then blocking is the final containment step.
It tells your nervous system:
“This is finished.”
Important reassurance
Blocking does not mean:
- You suppressed truth
- You acted irresponsibly
- You endangered others
- You were complicit
It means:
- You refused secondary trauma
- You declined an inappropriate role
- You preserved your recovery
Bottom line
Someone you barely know involved you because:
- They needed relief
- They wanted a witness
- They avoided proper channels
- They underestimated the cost to you
Blocking them:
- Stops stress transmission
- Restores agency
- Protects mental health
- Is fully justified
You are allowed to say, in action:
“This does not belong in my nervous system.”
