When behavior signals predatory opportunism, not genuine connection.
It is not accidental, and it is not about you.
🧠 Pattern Breakdown
1. Early vulnerability used as an entry point
“I’m sick… I don’t have insurance…”
This is manufactured urgency.
It invites rescue before trust exists.
✅ Healthy people solve early problems without testing your resources.
2. Asset-scanning questions
“Do you own the house?” “The car?” “You’re not selling, are you?”
This is financial reconnaissance.
They are assessing what can be extracted, not who you are.
✅ Genuine partners don’t inventory your assets.
3. Rehearsed backstory
“The last partner was pathologically jealous.”
This is pre-emptive character assassination.
It conditions you to doubt your own instincts later.
✅ When multiple exes are “crazy,” the common denominator isn’t them.
4. Projection when challenged
Accusing you of jealousy
This is deflection.
It shifts attention away from their behavior and onto your reaction.
✅ Accountability doesn’t require attacking the observer.
5. Mercenary mindset
Always looking for a “quick buck”
This signals short-term thinking and instrumental relationships — people are means, not bonds.
✅ Long-term partners think in stability, not extraction.
6. Absence when you need support
This confirms the asymmetry.
They show up for gain, not for care.
✅ Reciprocity is the baseline of real relationships.
🔴 The Core Signal (Most Important)
You are being evaluated as a resource, not chosen as a person.
Once extraction fails, they:
- Devalue you
- Rewrite history
- Attack your character
- Exit or seek the next target
This is a repeatable pattern, not bad luck.
🧭 What To Do When You See This Again
The moment you hear asset questions or rescue-testing, you can safely conclude:
This is not a safe emotional or financial connection.
You do not need more evidence.
Patterns remove the need for explanations.
