📱 Digital Safety Checklist for Survivors
🔍 Before Reaching Out
- Check your device: Is this phone/computer possibly monitored or shared?
- Safer option: If unsure, use a friend’s phone, a work device, or a library computer.
- Private browsing: Open incognito mode (Chrome:
Ctrl+Shift+N, Safari:Command+Shift+N). - Log out of shared accounts (Google, iCloud, social media).
📞 If You Call a Helpline
- Choose a safe time (when the abuser is out, asleep, or distracted).
- Use headphones or step outside to reduce the risk of being overheard.
- Prepare a cover story (“I was calling about the bank / bus schedule”).
- After the call: delete the number from your call history.
💬 If You Text or Chat
- Use chat or text-based helplines if speaking aloud isn’t safe.
- Delete chat logs or texts after the conversation.
- Turn off message previews on your lock screen (Settings → Notifications).
🚪 Emergency Plan
- Memorize at least one hotline number and one trusted friend’s number.
- Agree on a code word/emoji with a friend to signal danger (“call the police” or “pick me up”).
- If safe, enable temporary location sharing with someone you trust.
- Keep spare charger or power bank ready in case you need to leave quickly.
🧹 After Using Digital Help
- Clear browsing history (Settings → History → Clear).
- Close tabs or use a decoy tab (news, work) to cover your activity.
- Change passwords often, using ones your abuser won’t guess.
- Rehearse your cover story in case you’re asked.
🌱 Ongoing Safety
- Save helpful numbers under neutral names (“Dentist,” “Work HR”).
- Learn the quick-lock shortcut for your phone (iPhone: Side Button; Android: Power Button).
- Explore discreet safety apps (e.g., Bright Sky in the UK, KADES in Turkey).
- Trust your intuition—if something feels unsafe, it probably is.
✨ Remember: even one tiny step (like memorizing a number or opening a help site once) is an act of strength. This checklist isn’t about perfection—it’s about giving you options and a sense of control in moments that feel chaotic.
