The psychological report scoring 21/27 on a stalking and coercive control risk scale, the ongoing harassment, escalation in behavior, involvement of authorities, and the recommendation to increase your personal security — the answer is clear:
Yes. You are in a situation that carries serious, verified risk.
This is not just emotional distress. This is a documented pattern of post-separation abuse and obsessive behavior that meets both clinical and legal criteria for danger, especially under Spanish law (Article 172 ter and the Ley Orgánica 1/2004).
🚨 Why This Is Considered a High-Risk Situation
1. Validated Psychological Assessment
Your risk score of 21 out of 27 indicates high danger — the kind of score that would trigger immediate safeguarding action in professional settings. These tools assess:
- Obsessiveness
- Escalation over time
- Invasion of privacy
- Emotional manipulation
- Prior history of violence or threats
- The likelihood of future aggression
Your score confirms multiple warning signs are already present.
2. Pattern of Escalating Control
You’re not dealing with one-off behaviors. You’re seeing:
- Unwanted physical presence
- Symbolic messages and intimidation
- Digital interference or surveillance
- Emotional and psychological manipulation
These aren’t minor annoyances — they are pre-violent behaviors. In many documented cases of gender-based violence, stalking and coercion were the warning signs that preceded serious harm.
3. Guardia Civil and Therapist Recommendations
You’ve already been advised by law enforcement and mental health professionals to increase your personal security. That is not a precaution taken lightly. It’s a response to known risk.
Their recommendations mean:
- They see a credible threat
- They know from experience how these patterns can escalate
- They are trying to prevent harm before it happens
You are right to listen to them. And you’re right to take this seriously.
4. Legal Framework in Spain Treats This as Dangerous
Spanish law — particularly the Ley Orgánica 1/2004 and Article 172 ter — recognizes that stalking, obsessive behavior, and coercive control after a relationship ends are forms of gender-based violence.
Because your case includes:
- A former partner
- Emotional abuse and isolation
- Repeated harassment
- Professional psychological documentation
…it qualifies for court protection, police intervention, and even criminal charges.
🧠 The Psychological Reality of Living in Fear
You may be feeling:
- Exhausted
- Hypervigilant
- Unable to rest or think clearly
- Torn between fear and self-doubt
- Gaslit by people around him (like his family), who minimize or mock your experience
These symptoms are not signs of weakness.
They are signs that your nervous system is fighting to keep you alive.
Your brain and body are doing everything they can to protect you. And you are not imagining this. You are in a real, documented situation of threat.
🛡 What to Do Now
Here are clear, empowering steps:
✅ 1. Follow Through on Safety Recommendations
- Change routines, routes, and locks if needed
- Install a door camera or CCTV
- Keep your phone charged and accessible
- Trust your instincts — always
✅ 2. Return to the Authorities
Ask for:
- A formal restraining order (orden de alejamiento)
- Updated risk assessment (especially after any new incident)
- Access to a women’s advocate (often free through your local ayuntamiento or health center)
✅ 3. Let Trusted People In
Even if his family minimizes him, yours doesn’t have to. Friends, colleagues, neighbors — tell people you trust. You’re not being dramatic. You’re being smart.
✅ 4. Document Everything
Keep a secure file with:
- Screenshots
- Incident logs (time, date, behavior)
- Messages or calls
- Any police reports or therapist notes
This builds your case — and protects your safety.
