“He tried to strangle me… but I stayed.”
📖 Quote (Sharon Osbourne):
“He was on so many drugs and just came into the room and sat across from me. He said, ‘We’ve come to a decision that you’ve got to die.’”
— Sharon Osbourne on Ozzy’s strangulation attempt
🧠 Fact:
Survivors often stay even after severe violence. Not because they don’t want to leave — but because trauma, fear, love, and hope all live in the same house.
Trauma Bonding Is Not Weakness — It’s a Survival Response
🧠 Fact:
Trauma bonding occurs when a person forms a deep emotional attachment to someone who intermittently harms and comforts them. The brain begins to confuse chaos for connection.
🗣 Sharon Said:
“I just couldn’t leave him. I knew he was sick, and I still loved him.”
🌱 Truth: Trauma bonds are forged in survival, not stupidity.
Abuse Doesn’t Always Mean Hate — Sometimes, It’s Addiction
🧠 Fact:
Substance abuse and violence often go hand in hand. But addiction doesn’t erase accountability — it adds complexity.
🗣 Sharon Said:
“It wasn’t him. It was the drugs. I knew that. That’s what made it harder.”
💡 Understanding this doesn’t excuse the abuse — but it explains why someone may hope for healing instead of walking away.
Why Didn’t She Just Leave?
🧠 Fact:
The average survivor leaves 7–11 times before leaving for good — if they ever do. Fear, finances, shame, children, or even love can keep someone trapped.
🗣 Sharon Said:
“I just thought, ‘How can I leave the man I love? The father of my kids?’ I didn’t know who I was without him.”
📢 No one should ever have to choose between love and safety.
When He Changed, So Did the Story — But the Wounds Stay
🧠 Fact:
Some people, especially those fueled by addiction rather than personality disorders, can recover — but that does noterase the trauma endured.
🗣 Sharon Said:
“He went to rehab. He got sober. But the memories — they don’t vanish. You carry them.”
💬 Healing is not the same as pretending it never happened.
Let’s Stop Asking “Why Did She Stay?” and Start Asking “How Did She Survive?”
🧠 Final Thought:
No one chooses to be abused.
No one deserves to stay afraid.
And no survivor should be judged for how they made it through.
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