There was a time when I stayed quiet.
When I second-guessed myself.
When I minimized the abuse because “he hadn’t hit me this time” or “maybe it’s not serious enough to report.”
Those days are over.
Because now, I know what abuse looks like in all its forms — the psychological games, the control, the obsession, the stalking, the breaking of boundaries again and again, as if I don’t matter.
But I do matter.
And I will not stay silent anymore.
I will report him every single time he breaks the restraining order.
And I will keep going until the system listens, protects, and acts.
🧩 When the Pieces Start to Fall Into Place
Recently, I discovered that my padel partners — women I play with regularly, women who have watched me rebuild my life with resilience and dignity — went to the Guardia Civil to give evidence.
Even though they didn’t recognize him.
Even though they weren’t sure what he looked like.
Even though it wasn’t their battle.
They still showed up.
They told the truth.
They said, “Yes — we saw someone waiting. We saw the fear. We believe her.”
And that changes everything.
💬 This Is What Support Feels Like
For too long, women have had to be their own advocates, detectives, therapists, and bodyguards.
But now?
I’m feeling something different: support.
- Not because I begged for it.
- Not because I “proved” I was worthy.
- But because other women are finally standing up and saying, “Enough.”
When they walked into the Guardia Civil and spoke up — even without knowing the full story — they were saying:
“We believe her. We’re watching. And we won’t look away.”
That kind of validation, after years of gaslighting and being made to feel “dramatic” or “hysterical,” is priceless. It’s grounding. It’s healing. It’s justice beginning to bloom.
🔁 Every Time He Breaks the Order, I Will Report Him
It doesn’t matter how “small” it looks.
It doesn’t matter if others roll their eyes or say “He’s just trying to get your attention.”
No.
He is violating boundaries. He is breaking the law. He is trying to exert control.
And I refuse to normalize that.
Because every time we let it slide,
every time we excuse it,
every time we say, “It’s not worth the hassle,”
we send the message that our safety — our right to peace — doesn’t matter.
But it does matter.
I matter.
My healing matters.
My boundaries matter.
And I will defend them with everything I’ve got.
🧨 The Majority of Women Will No Longer Tolerate Abuse
We’re done whispering.
We’re done being nice to stay safe.
We’re done allowing systems to dismiss stalking, harassment, or emotional abuse as “not serious enough.”
The majority of women today will not:
- Stay silent to avoid drama
- Tolerate fear as part of daily life
- Excuse “misunderstandings” that are really violations
- Allow a restraining order to become a meaningless piece of paper
We know better now.
And we are stronger together.
🌿 This Is What Empowered Healing Looks Like
It looks like walking into the police station again.
It looks like logging the incident again.
It looks like choosing your peace over your fear — again and again and again.
It looks like other women stepping up and saying:
“We’re with you. We’ll speak too. Let’s make sure they listen this time.”
It looks like holding the line when your voice shakes, when your hands tremble, when your heart feels exhausted — because you know the truth is worth it.
📣 To Every Woman Reading This
If he’s still following you, calling you, showing up where he shouldn’t be…
Report him. Every time.
You are not “overreacting.”
You are not being “petty.”
You are not alone.
And if you ever doubt yourself, remember this:
Other women are watching.
Other women are rising.
And we are rewriting the story — together.
