Someone recently asked me what is financial abuse.

These are the messages I received after the physical abuse to try and win me back!!!

I will try and send you an email tonight after the computer man has been. I have not told him I can’t  pay him. A horrible and embarrassing situation to be in  Bank won’t  give me a loan due to age

Linda I will try and contact her tomorrow although I don’t  know what to ask. We need to sort finances out Thursday latest or we are in it

Linda I took out 400 euros to pay the computer people. If we do not meet our bllls we are both screwed for residency

Linda we have to pay some money between us into Sabadell. I will transfer 1000 euros as long as you promise not to take it out. I think it best at the moment that you don’t come back home. It will be too difficult and stressful. I will send you details of what is owing and what should be coming in. As long as you haven’t  directed your pension payments elsewhere (PROJECTION thats exactly what he has done)

Linda I do not want you to divorce me. I love you with all my heart and soul. If we both continue to put our pensions into our Sabadell account we will be alright. We just have to get over, just this hurdle. If the aggression can be stopped then we will be fine

Linda please do not divorce me. Let’s  sort this out, just you and me with nobody else involved. I promise you that you do not need legal protection against me. I am a changed person now that the cancer threat has gone away. I was hiding my fears very well but inside every day I was a wreck. If the treatment  didn’t work that was it. A huge relief for me that has really lifted my spirits. I want to confirm that I love you with everything I have. Don’t divorce me, let’s  put this nastiness behind us and move forward. Let’s sell the house together, here from home, and buy a smaller property and spend the difference on ourselves. (WHAT HE REALLY MEANS IS LET ME SPEND THE DIFFERENCE ON ME) I will move my Aviva pension to Spain. Neither of us will need to get concerned about money in the future . I am not a controlling person anymore  Linda. I am extremely concerned that if you come back here and we have not resolved our differences (DIFFERENCES MEANING MONEY) the situation will be difficult. I will not leave you broke and I will never hurt you. I can easily reverse my UK will 

Linda I am going to the bank.tomorrow we have until 1 November to make the balance up xx

Please do not ruin my chances of living in Spain. Please

THIS IS FINANCIAL ABUSE – CONSULT THE SPREADSHEET!!!!