Let me stop you right there.
What you see as quick is actually the result of years of surviving, and finally, one moment that changed everything.
That moment?
When I was strangled — and told,
“I could have easily killed you if I wanted to.”
That was the moment something inside me died.
Not my spirit — but the illusion that I was safe, or loved.
From that point on, I didn’t “fall out of love” — I emotionally detached out of necessity.
Because fear took over where love once lived.
That wasn’t healing.
That was survival.
What most people don’t see:
Behind the scenes, I had already been living in emotional, financial, and psychological chaos for years.
What you call “healing fast” is what happens when:
- You’ve been working with therapists for nearly a decade
- You’ve been building internal strength long before anyone noticed
- You’ve been told by doctors, psychologists, and even the police that it’s dangerous to stay
- And you finally, finally listen — not because it’s easy, but because it’s life or death
I tried to make it work.
Yes, I was desperate to save my marriage.
But let’s be honest — what marriage?
Manipulation, threats, and abuse aren’t marriage.
That’s control. That’s trauma.
Anyone who truly knows me — really knows — has seen the truth for themselves.
They’ve read the court documents going back as far as 1997.
They’ve seen the evidence, the proof, the hard reality I lived with behind closed doors.
The silence of some people speaks volumes.
Only one person hasn’t reacted —
And that’s because they’ve never experienced anything like this in their own life.
And if you’ve never lived through emotional, physical, or psychological abuse — I don’t expect you to fully understand.
But here’s what I will say:
Please don’t judge a healing journey you’ve never had to walk through barefoot.
So yes, I’ve come a long way.
But not because I’m “over it.”
Because I’ve faced it.
I’ve worked tirelessly to reclaim my life, my peace, and my sanity.
Not overnight. Not magically.
But through:
- Consistent trauma therapy
- Real community support
- Radical truth-telling
- And the sheer will to live a different life
Healing isn’t a destination.
It’s a daily choice.
Some days are heavy. Some are beautiful.
But every day now brings new experiences — and even joy.
Because I survived.
And I’m awake.
And I am free.
If you’ve been through something like this — you are not alone.
And if you haven’t, but you’re willing to listen and learn — thank you.
Because when we speak our truth, we don’t just heal — we change the culture of silence around abuse.
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