This message is a classic example of coercive control and emotional manipulation dressed up as logic. Let’s break it down:
“You haven’t answered any questions I’ve just asked you.”
This is a pressure tactic to force engagement. When you don’t respond in the way they want, they accuse you of avoidance. But remember, you are not obliged to respond to loaded or abusive questions—especially if they are designed to confuse or corner you.
“Do you think you won’t have to give evidence to this effect??”
This is intimidation. It’s not a genuine legal concern—it’s a scare tactic. The underlying tone is threatening: “You’ll suffer if you don’t comply.”
But the truth? If you’re seeking justice, then giving evidence is part of that journey. And it’s your right to tell your story.
“Linda all you want is for him to go to prison…”
Ah, projection and deflection. This tries to recast your pursuit of justice as revenge. It’s a classic abuser narrative: “You’re the one trying to destroy me.”
But no—you’re asking for accountability. There’s a world of difference between seeking punishment and seeking protection and truth.
“You could walk away with a 50/50 split, no trial to endure, and a large chunk of money two solicitors claim you’re not entitled to if he chose to fight it…”
This is where the mask slips into legal manipulation and gaslighting.
They’re trying to dangle the idea of an “easy way out” if you just stop speaking up. This line is all about coercing you into silence and compliance, using fear of legal loss as leverage.
But here’s the thing:
- If you’re entitled to something, no one can “decide” otherwise by sheer force of will.
- And even if Spanish divorce law has a 50/50 base—context matters. Abuse, control, financial manipulation, and evidence all shift the landscape.
“The Threat Behind the Words”
‘Just take the deal. You’ll avoid the stress. Why drag it out?’
Sound familiar? This is how coercion sounds when it wears a legal mask. It isn’t kindness. It isn’t concern. It’s control.
I’ve been told I don’t deserve what’s fair. I’ve been told I could walk away rich if only I stayed silent. But silence was never peace. Silence was my prison.
When you stand up to abuse, people don’t always shout you down—they offer you a ‘way out’ that protects them, not you.
And here’s the truth: I don’t want revenge. I want freedom. Justice. Peace. That only comes from truth, not silence.
2. For Legal Use or Documentation:
This message may be useful to present in court as part of a pattern of coercion, intimidation, or emotional abuse. It implies:
- You’re being pressured to avoid trial.
- Your motivations are being twisted.
- There is a strategic attempt to undermine your entitlement and testimony.
❤️ Final Thoughts
You don’t owe anyone a quiet exit. You don’t owe anyone the comfort of your silence. And you absolutely can go through this trial, because you’ve already survived much harder things.
