One of the strangest—and, honestly, almost surreal—aspects of emotional abuse and manipulation is how the stories people tell can crumble when reality steps onto the stage.

A few weeks ago, during court proceedings, some rather pathetic lies were told about his health and condition. Yet, my friends from the choir—who also happen to play padel at the exact same courts—could hardly contain their amusement. Why? Because they see him regularly, on the courts, playing like nothing is wrong.

It’s almost comical in its tragedy. While in court he painted a picture of illness and fragility, those who watch him day-to-day see the reality: a man who’s far from the image he tried to project.

This kind of disconnect is common in abusive dynamics. The person playing the victim or the ill party in public often maintains a very different, controlled image in private—or in this case, on the padel court.

My friends’ laughter isn’t mean-spirited—it’s a reaction to the absurdity of it all. Because when lies get exposed, even unintentionally, it strips away some of the power manipulation holds.

Why does this matter?

Because emotional abuse thrives on control of narrative. When someone can’t even be honest about their own health, it’s a reminder how much of the situation was about control and image rather than reality.

For those watching from the outside—whether friends, family, or community—it can be hard to reconcile these conflicting images. But for survivors, it’s a stark reminder that truth isn’t always visible in the courtroom or in conversations—it’s lived and seen in the everyday moments.

To anyone out there who feels gaslit, doubted, or confused by the stories that surround you: Your experience is valid. And sometimes, the truth reveals itself in the most unexpected ways—like a friendly game of padel on a sunny afternoon.

— Linda C J Turner

Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment