🌿 Relationship Readiness Checklist

(Am I ready? Is this healthy? What do I need to stay true to myself?)

💛 Emotional Safety & Self-Awareness

  •  I feel safe expressing my needs and emotions without fear of punishment or silence.
  •  I don’t feel the need to perform, please, or shrink to be accepted.
  •  I can sit with discomfort without rushing to fix it or escape it.

🤍 Boundaries & Autonomy

  •  I know where my boundaries are — emotional, physical, sexual, energetic — and I honor them.
  •  I can say “no” with clarity and kindness.
  •  I do not feel responsible for someone else’s emotional regulation.

💬 Communication & Clarity

  •  I feel comfortable having hard conversations with honesty and care.
  •  I don’t feel punished or abandoned when I share uncomfortable truths.
  •  I don’t rely on mind-reading — I ask for what I need directly.

🔄 Reciprocity & Balance

  •  Effort, attention, and emotional labor are mutual — I’m not doing all the work.
  •  I’m not making excuses for emotional unavailability or toxic behavior.
  •  I feel chosen, not just tolerated or “kept around.”

🧭 Personal Power & Inner Knowing

  •  I trust myself to walk away if this becomes harmful or draining.
  •  I am not looking for a savior, rescuer, or project to fix.
  •  I want connection — not validation, not distraction, not escape.

✍️ Healing Journal Prompts for New Relationships

These prompts are designed to connect you to your inner compass and calm the nervous system as you step into the unknown.

🪷 Grounding in Self

  1. Who am I becoming in this new chapter of my life?
  2. What does love feel like in my body when it’s safe, not survival-based?
  3. What parts of me feel tender or uncertain as I start something new? How can I offer them compassion?

🛡 Rebuilding Trust

  1. How do I know I can trust myself now, even if the relationship doesn’t work out?
  2. What does emotional safety mean to me, and how will I recognize it in this relationship?
  3. What are 3 ways I’ve changed since my last relationship that I feel proud of?

🔍 Awareness of Patterns

  1. What are my early warning signs that I’m abandoning myself in relationships?
  2. In the past, what roles did I play (rescuer, fixer, peacekeeper)? How do I want to show up now?
  3. How do I respond when I feel triggered — and what can I do differently now with compassion?

🌿 Embodying New Choices

  1. How will I know I’m being loved well? What are the signs I can look for in actions, not just words?
  2. What boundaries do I need to keep myself emotionally nourished and spiritually grounded?
  3. What do I want from a relationship — not what I fear, not what I settle for — but what I truly desire?

🧘‍♀️ Bonus Self-Love Prompt:

✨ “In this new relationship, I will not betray myself to keep the peace. I will love and be loved with honesty, clarity, and grace.”
Now, write what that means for you in real time.


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