Going from strength to strength—today I was joined by another cherished visitor: my sister-in-law, who was married to my beloved brother. Her presence, like those of my recent visitors, brought peace, calm, and something that had been absent for far too long: an environment free from judgement, anger, or the oppressive shadow of an abuser.
I feel so incredibly grateful to my family, who are taking turns to be here for me, holding space during one of the darkest periods of my life. Their love and presence are helping me feel safe enough to rediscover who I was before the abuse began. Each day brings a little more healing, a little more light, and a stronger connection to the self I had to hide away for so long.
It’s only now, being physically away from the chaos and control, that I can truly see and feel the extent of the damage that took place over the years. Psychological abuse isn’t always visible—it works in the shadows, chipping away at your identity, your confidence, and your reality. But once you step out, the veil lifts, and the truth is staggering.
To anyone reading this who feels trapped: please don’t ever believe you have no choices. You do. You don’t have to stay in an abusive relationship. Yes, the path out is frightening and uncertain—especially financially—but I can tell you firsthand: peace of mind is priceless. I was financially abused too, and I’ve realised that I’m no worse off now than I was before. The difference is, I’m free. And freedom brings clarity, peace, and healing.
I never thought I would get this far. But I have. And I am so happy I made the choices I did.
With the support of the incredible Centro Mujer, I am preparing to get back to work, rebuild, and regain financial independence. No doubt, there will be attempts to sabotage me—already, letters from the French tax authorities have started arriving, despite the fact that I left France and my work three years ago. I know all too well the games some people play, secretly attempting to harm others while wearing a mask of civility. I even have a handwritten letter that was once sent by him about someone else, so I know his methods well.
It’s a dark thing to realise that some people spend their lives trying to quietly destroy others from behind closed doors. It’s why I’ve learned one painful truth: keep your enemies close—not out of fear, but out of strategy. Their bitterness will never stop me, no matter how hard they try.
I’ve seen the truth in the backup files. I know who I am. And no matter what he tells his friends or the world around him, they can see the truth too.
And I know the truth. And that’s all that matters.
To anyone going through this now: you are not alone. There is life after abuse. There is you after abuse. And you are worth fighting for.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
