On October 16th, After the abuse I left the marital home and I filed for divorce.
By October 17th, I had contacted the Delegation del Gobierno contra la Violencia de Género to report the abuse—something I had endured for far too long.
The very next day, on October 18th, he changed his will. I did not leave in a fit of temper because he had changed his will, this is total fiction as you can see and my freinds and family have seen the evidence first hand!
These are not just dates. These are milestones in a journey of awakening, resistance, and truth-telling. They mark the moment the cycle of control was finally broken—and the moment my abuser made one last, desperate move to reassert it.
This Is What Happens When Abusers Lose Power
From a psychological perspective, when an abuser realizes that their victim is no longer under their control, the fear of losing power can lead to swift, calculated retaliation. It may not always come in the form of words or violence. Sometimes, it’s through the cold, legal stroke of a pen—altering a will, hiding assets, or launching a smear campaign to rewrite the narrative.
And that’s exactly what happened here.
He knew there was no coming back this time. The pattern had repeated too many times before—explosions, apologies, blame-shifting, and manipulation. But something changed in me. And on October 16th, I stood up and said enough.
The next day, I sought support through official channels—affirming to myself and to the world that I would no longer be silent.
And on the 18th? He retaliated. Not with remorse. Not with change. But with punishment—changing his will to send a message that he still had the final say.
The Truth Behind the Timing
To friends and family who stood by my side—who witnessed the abuse, who heard my cries, who saw the bruises that don’t always show on skin—the truth is clear. The timing was no coincidence. The will wasn’t changed out of clarity, legacy planning, or fairness. It was changed out of spite.
This act wasn’t about estate planning.
It was about control.
About punishing me for standing up.
About ensuring I still “paid” in some way, even after breaking free.
Financial Retaliation Is a Form of Abuse
Let’s be clear: changing a will or manipulating finances after being reported for abuse is a common form of post-separation abuse.
It’s meant to provoke, to destabilize, to leave the survivor questioning their worth, their decisions, or their ability to move forward.
But here’s what I know now:
- I don’t want his money. I want my peace.
- I haven’t begged him back. I’ve rebuilt without him.
- I’m not the vulture—I’m the survivor.
A Message to Anyone Reading This
If you’ve experienced similar tactics—being cut out, discredited, accused of greed or vengeance—please know: you are not alone. These are common reactions by abusers when they feel exposed. They lash out legally when they can no longer control you emotionally.
But you are stronger than their smear campaigns.
You are wiser than their gaslighting.
And you are braver than they ever imagined.
You don’t have to prove your truth to those who twist it.
You just have to live it—with integrity, strength, and freedom.
If you’re navigating post-separation abuse or need support around domestic abuse and legal manipulation, Linda C J Turner Therapy offers trauma-informed care, survivor advocacy, and a community that believes you.
Because your story matters—and the truth can’t be silenced by a change of will.
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
