[Your Name]
[Your Address]
[City, Postcode]
[Phone Number]
[Email Address]
[Date]
To:
[Officer’s Name, if known]
[Police Department Name]
[Police Department Address]
Dear Officer [Name] / To Whom It May Concern,
I am writing to formally report a pattern of emotional and psychological abuse inflicted upon me by [Abuser’s Full Name], [their date of birth if known].
Over the course of our relationship [or specify the timeframe], I was subjected to sustained emotional abuse, including but not limited to:
- Verbal degradation: constant insults, name-calling, belittling, and shaming.
- Manipulation and gaslighting: persistent denial of facts, twisting of reality, and attempts to make me question my own memory and sanity.
- Isolation: efforts to cut me off from friends, family, and sources of emotional support.
- Threats and intimidation: both explicit and implied threats to my safety, reputation, or personal relationships.
- Control of daily life: monitoring my activities, finances, communication, and personal freedoms.
These behaviors have caused significant psychological harm, including symptoms of anxiety, depression, hypervigilance, and loss of self-confidence.
At times, I feared for my emotional survival and physical safety.
I have preserved [if applicable: text messages, emails, voice recordings, journal entries, witness testimonies] that document this abusive behavior.
Given the ongoing pattern and the severe impact on my mental and emotional well-being, I am requesting that this matter be formally investigated.
I am willing to cooperate fully with any inquiry and seek protective measures to ensure my continued safety and recovery.
I thank you for taking emotional and psychological abuse seriously and for assisting victims in cases of coercive control and domestic violence.
Yours faithfully,
[Your Full Name]
🌿 Helpful Reminders:
- You don’t have to “prove” every incident in the letter.
Just show that the abuse was persistent and damaging. - If you have evidence, mention it (but you don’t have to attach it unless police request it).
- If you don’t have “proof,” your testimony still matters.
Emotional abuse is often invisible but very real.
💬 And a few words from the heart:
Reporting emotional abuse is powerful, brave, and healing.
It says to the world — and to yourself —
“What happened to me matters. I deserve to be safe, valued, and free.”
You are not exaggerating.
You are not overreacting.
You are standing up for your soul.
🌿🤍
— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
