By Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Advocate
You opened your heart.
You trusted them.
You shared your fears, your past, your pain—because that’s what intimacy is meant to hold: safety.
But one day, during an argument, they went there.
They reached right into the most tender places of your story and threw it back at you like a weapon.
They said the thing you told them in confidence.
The thing you never told anyone else.
They twisted it, mocked it, exaggerated it—used it to cut you down when you were already hurting.
💔 That’s not just unkind.
💥 That’s psychological warfare.
From a psychological perspective, this is a classic sign of emotional abuse and sadistic manipulation—where the goal isn’t to resolve the conflict, but to dominate, destabilize, and destroy your sense of self.
🧠 In healthy relationships, vulnerability is treated with reverence.
In abusive ones, it’s stored like ammunition, to be fired the moment you express a need, a boundary, or your truth.
This tactic is deeply traumatic—and here’s why:
💣 Psychologically:
- It shatters trust—not just in them, but in yourself and in others.
- It conditions fear around emotional expression.
- It leaves you walking on eggshells, terrified of ever opening up again.
🧠 Neurologically:
- Your brain associates connection with danger.
- Your nervous system enters survival mode: freeze, fawn, or collapse.
- The limbic system, which holds emotional memory, gets triggered each time you’re reminded of the betrayal, reactivating the pain like it’s happening all over again.
Over time, this abuse silences you.
You stop sharing.
You stop asking.
You stop existing fully—because you’ve learned that being seen comes at too high a cost.
But hear this:
✨ Your vulnerability was never the problem.
✨ Your pain was never too much.
✨ You are not weak for trusting.
They were cruel for using it against you.
True love holds space.
True care protects your story, even during disagreement.
True connection never uses your wounds as weapons.
If someone punches below the belt emotionally,
you’re not in a relationship—you’re in a battle you never signed up for.
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— Linda C J Turner
Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment
