This is absolutely classic abuser behavior—manipulation, false hope, and threats, all designed to wear you down and make you second-guess yourself. One minute, they’re claiming they’ve changed and still love you, and the next, they’re sending flying monkeys to deliver abusive, vile messages. It’s a desperate game—one they’re losing.
The “I’ve changed” lie, the mixed messages, and how abusers use every tool available to try to make you withdraw from seeking justice.
The “I’ve Changed” Lie: When Love and Hate Are Used as Weapons
One of the most twisted tactics an abuser will use is the fake redemption story. They tell you they still love you, they claim to have had therapy, they insist they’re a different person now. It’s a well-rehearsed act, carefully designed to target your empathy, your hope, and that small part of you that once wished things could have been different.
But while they’re whispering sweet nothings in one ear, their enablers are screaming threats in the other. The mask always slips. The moment you don’t respond the way they want, the moment they realize you’re not falling for it, their true nature resurfaces. This is not change. This is not love. This is abuse in its rawest, most desperate form.
Now, as I stand firm in my truth, the attacks have escalated. Financial threats, smear campaigns, flying monkeys sent to do their dirty work—all designed to pressure me into dropping the court case. These aren’t the actions of someone who has changed. They are the actions of someone terrified of consequences.
This is what abusers do when they realize their power is slipping. They try to convince you they’ve changed, and when that doesn’t work, they resort to intimidation. It’s a cycle, a desperate attempt to regain control.
But here’s what they don’t understand: I see through it now.
I will not be swayed by false promises. I will not be broken by their threats. I will not withdraw from this fight, because my truth deserves to be heard. And no amount of manipulation, love-bombing, or cruelty will take that away from me.
This is abuse at its worst, but it’s also proof that they know they’ve lost control. And that means you’ve already won the most important battle—you’re no longer under their spell.
