The behaviors you described—threatening emails, hiding finances, stealing mail, tampering with security systems, and engaging in physical, emotional, and financial abuse—are incredibly serious. In Spain, these actions are not only abusive but also illegal.

Here’s a general overview of how Spanish law addresses these issues:

1. Physical Abuse: This is considered a criminal offense under Spanish law and is treated very seriously. It can lead to arrest, prosecution, and severe penalties, including imprisonment. Domestic violence is specifically protected under Spain’s Law on Gender-Based Violence (Ley Orgánica 1/2004), which gives priority to the safety and protection of victims, especially in cases involving partners or former partners.
2. Emotional and Psychological Abuse: This is also recognized as abuse under Spanish law, and the legal system has provisions to protect victims from psychological harm. The Spanish Penal Code has been updated to consider psychological harm and coercion as valid grounds for legal action, especially if it’s part of a pattern of control or abuse.
3. Financial Abuse: Stealing bank cards or tampering with finances is considered fraud under Spanish law and is punishable by criminal penalties. In the case of a couple, if one spouse or partner takes control of the finances or manipulates financial assets without consent, this could also be considered a form of economic abuse, which is increasingly recognized in legal systems around the world.
4. Stealing Mail: This is considered theft or tampering with private correspondence, which is illegal under Spanish law and could lead to criminal charges. This could also include the illegal interception of emails or other forms of communication, which could involve additional violations of privacy rights.
5. Tampering with Security Systems: This could fall under interference with property or unauthorized access to digital devices, which are also criminal offenses in Spain. If someone tampers with a security system, they may face charges related to the violation of privacy or even cybercrime.

It’s important to reach out to legal professionals who specialize in domestic violence and abuse in Spain. Many organizations offer free or low-cost legal support, and in many cases, courts and police in Spain take domestic violence very seriously, offering immediate protection such as restraining orders or even temporary custody orders for children if necessary.

If you are in immediate danger, please don’t hesitate to contact the local police (112) or the Victim Support Services. They are equipped to handle these cases swiftly and confidentially.