Strangulation is one of the most dangerous forms of domestic violence. Even if you survive the attack, the effects can be immediate, delayed, and even fatal days or weeks later. It is not just another form of assault—it is a clear sign that an abuser has the intent and capacity to kill. This is why reporting strangulation is critical for your safety and for holding abusers accountable.
1. Strangulation Is a Strong Predictor of Homicide
Strangulation is one of the biggest warning signs that a victim may be killed by their abuser.
- Studies show that victims of non-fatal strangulation are 7 times more likely to be murdered by their abuser in the future.
- If someone has strangled you once, they are likely to do it again, and next time, it could be fatal.
Even if the abuser says things like “I wasn’t trying to kill you,” or “I could have killed you, but I didn’t,”—this is not a sign of restraint. It is a threat. They want you to know that they hold power over your life.
2. Strangulation Can Kill You Hours or Days Later
Even if you feel “fine” after being strangled, the hidden damage can be deadly.
- Strangulation cuts off oxygen and blood flow to the brain, which can cause strokes, brain damage, and blood clots that may not show symptoms immediately.
- A torn artery in the neck can cause a fatal stroke days or weeks later, even if you initially seem okay.
- Swelling in the throat can slowly close off your airway over hours or days, leading to delayed suffocation.
Because the danger isn’t always visible, victims must seek medical attention immediately—even if there are no marks on the neck.
3. Strangulation Often Leaves No External Marks—But It’s Still Serious
Unlike other physical assaults, strangulation often does not leave visible bruises or injuries, making victims less likely to report it or be believed. However, courts, police, and medical experts recognize that even if there are no marks, the internal damage can be life-threatening.
Some delayed symptoms to watch for:
✅ Trouble breathing or swallowing
✅ Persistent headaches or dizziness
✅ Memory loss or confusion
✅ Vision changes or ringing in the ears
✅ Hoarseness, coughing, or voice changes
✅ Small red spots (petechiae) in the eyes, face, or neck
Even if you think, “It wasn’t that bad,”—the damage may not appear until it’s too late.
4. Strangulation Is a Crime—And Courts Take It Seriously
Most legal systems recognize strangulation as a felony or an aggravating factor in domestic violence cases.
- In the U.S., the UK, Australia, Canada, and other countries, strangulation is often charged as attempted murder or felony assault.
- Some areas have specific strangulation laws, meaning the abuser can be arrested and prosecuted even if there are no visible injuries.
- Strangulation can impact custody decisions, as courts see it as an extreme risk to children.
5. Reporting Strangulation Can Save Your Life
If you have been strangled, you must seek medical attention and report it to the police.
- Go to the hospital – Even if you think you’re okay, a medical evaluation is critical to check for brain damage, internal injuries, and delayed suffocation risks.
- Document everything – Take photos, write down what happened, and keep any threatening messages from your abuser.
- Report it – Call the police, file a restraining order, or seek help from a domestic violence advocate.
You deserve to be safe, and you are not alone. Strangulation is a terrifying and violent act, but help is available. Reporting it can be the first step toward getting out of danger and preventing further harm.
Final Thoughts: Take It Seriously, Even If They Say “It Wasn’t That Bad”
Abusers often try to downplay strangulation, saying things like:
❌ “I wasn’t really trying to hurt you.”
❌ “If I wanted to kill you, I would have.”
❌ “You’re overreacting.”
This is manipulation. Strangulation is an extreme, life-threatening attack. No one who truly loves or respects you would ever put their hands around your throat.
Your life matters. Your safety matters. Please seek help. 💙 If you need support or resources, let me know, and I can guide you toward the right organizations.
