This is classic isolation and control. Your abuser knows that if you have support, you will gain the strength to leave—so they cut you off from anyone who might help you.
🔴 They FEAR exposure more than they care about you. Their priority isn’t fixing the relationship—it’s silencing you.
🔴 They use fear, guilt, or manipulation to keep you away from others.
🔴 They turn people against you before you can tell your story. This is part of the smear campaign—making you look like the problem so no one believes you.
How They Do It:
🚨 Lies & Manipulation – Telling others “She’s unstable,” “She’s exaggerating,” or “She’s trying to ruin my life.”
🚨 Forcing You to Cut People Off – Giving ultimatums, guilt-tripping, or punishing you if you stay in touch.
🚨 Creating Drama – Making it seem like those people betrayed them, so you feel forced to choose sides.
🚨 Total Isolation – Controlling your phone, transportation, or money so you physically can’t contact others.
What This Really Means:
💡 They KNOW what they did was wrong. If they truly believed they had nothing to hide, they wouldn’t care who you spoke to.
💡 They are afraid of losing control. If you stay connected to others, you will see the truth—that you do not deserve this.
💡 This is about POWER, not love. Love does not demand silence. Love does not isolate.
What Can You Do?
✔ Find a way to reconnect with safe people. Even if they tried to turn them against you, some will still care. Try to reach out when it’s safe.
✔ Use code words or hidden messages if needed. If you’re still being monitored, find discreet ways to ask for help.
✔ Document everything. If you’re in danger, keep records of what’s happening.
✔ Seek professional help quietly. A domestic violence support group or advocate can guide you on how to leave safely.
Final Reality Check:
If someone isolates you to silence you, they are dangerous. This is not a relationship—it’s a hostage situation.
🚨 You are NOT alone, even if they’ve tried to make you feel that way. The right people will listen, and there is a way out. 🚨
Keep speaking. Keep fighting. You deserve freedom. ❤️
