During a recent Padel lesson, my friends noticed the negative impact and change in me when he arrived on the Padel court. Their observation made me pause and reflect on the profound ways our past experiences and relationships can still affect us, even when we think we have moved forward.

I had been thoroughly enjoying my lesson, feeling strong, focused, and engaged in the game. The energy on the court was light, and my progress was evident. Then, in an instant, everything shifted. My posture changed, my energy dropped, and my usual enthusiasm faded. I wasn’t even fully aware of it until my friends pointed it out. It was as if a shadow had suddenly been cast over my presence, and despite all the work I’ve done on myself, a part of me reacted instinctively.

This experience was a stark reminder that healing is not always linear. No matter how much we rebuild, certain triggers can still momentarily shake us. The key, however, is in how we respond once we recognize them. Instead of allowing the past to take control, I reminded myself of how far I’ve come.

I took a deep breath, adjusted my stance, and consciously chose to refocus. While the initial impact was undeniable, I refused to let it define my experience. And that, in itself, is growth.

Moving forward, I take this moment as a learning opportunity. Awareness is powerful, and each time we confront a trigger with self-compassion and strength, we reclaim another piece of ourselves. My journey has been one of resilience, and I will not allow any presence—past or present—to overshadow my progress.

To those who have ever felt an unspoken weight settle over them in the presence of someone from their past, know this: you are stronger than the moment, and you are in control of your own narrative. Healing is not about never feeling triggered—it’s about learning how to rise above it every time.