Trauma refers to an emotional or psychological response to an event or series of events that are distressing or disturbing, often exceeding an individual’s ability to cope. Traumatic experiences can be diverse and may include situations such as accidents, natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat, or the sudden loss of a loved one. Trauma can have a profound impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, leading to a range of symptoms and challenges.
15 Days from Freedom Fifteen days from freedom. Of course, he chose today. By now, I wouldn’t expect anything less. Three years ago, I made a choice I deeply regret. Despite my knowledge and experience in trauma therapy, I believed I could manage the situation once I escaped the isolation of France. I convinced myself… Read More “Your Body Knows Before Your Mind Accepts It.”
No survivor of abuse wakes up and says, “Today, I’ll spend my time in a police station, reporting the person I once loved.” No one who is already fighting just to survive chooses to put themselves through the overwhelming stress of making statements, giving evidence in court, and reliving their trauma in front of strangers. The idea… Read More Deeply Harmful
The experiences children have in abusive homes can profoundly shape how they see relationships, trust, and gender as adults. However, it is important to be careful not to assume that all boys who witness abuse will become “women haters.” Many boys who grow up watching their father or another male figure shout, insult, swear at,… Read More Misogynistic attitudes
One of the most important lessons to learn during and after trauma is that you cannot pour from an empty cup. When life has been turned upside down, your wellbeing must become a priority, not an afterthought. Think of the safety instructions on an aeroplane: “Put your own oxygen mask on first before assisting others.” This advice is… Read More Looking After Yourself During and After Trauma
In emotional abuse, there is no single “pain threshold” that applies to everyone. People respond differently depending on their personality, resilience, support network, life experiences, age, mental health, and the nature of the abuse itself. What one person can withstand for years may overwhelm another much sooner. That does not mean one person is stronger… Read More Breaking Point
As therapists, much of our work focuses on helping people heal from pain. We support survivors of abuse, betrayal, neglect, and trauma as they learn to rebuild their lives and move forward. While this work is challenging, there is often a willingness on the part of the client to understand their experiences and seek change.… Read More When the Person Inflicting Pain Is Someone You Love
You could write this as a powerful reflection while keeping the focus on safety and awareness: I have been told in no uncertain terms that now is the time to be vigilant. The professionals who deal with these situations every day understand something that many victims do not realise until much later: the period when… Read More The most dangerous time
While sorting through old documents, I also came across something else from that period—recordings of the conversations that took place that night. After being locked out of my own home, I went back inside expecting the worst. Something told me that I needed to record what happened, not out of revenge, but to ensure there… Read More Phone recordings
Abuse rarely exists in isolation. It thrives in secrecy, denial, and the unspoken rules that keep families trapped in harmful patterns. Across generations, the effects of abuse can ripple through families, shaping relationships, influencing behaviours, and leaving emotional wounds that may persist for decades. Many families carry painful histories that are never openly discussed. Children… Read More Breaking the Cycle: Confronting Abuse, Ending Silence, and Creating a Better Future
One of the most difficult emotions for survivors of childhood abuse to talk about is the desire to see an abusive parent suffer. Society expects children to love, forgive, and honour their parents, no matter what happened behind closed doors. As a result, many adult survivors carry feelings of anger, resentment, and even thoughts of… Read More When the Wounded Child Wants the Parent to Suffer
