Tag: personal-finance

Financial wealth and emotional wealth are not the same thing

Someone may spend years criticizing other people for being obsessed with money or status, only to become preoccupied with those very things themselves. Psychologists sometimes refer to this as a form of psychological projection or defensive self-enhancement—criticizing in others what one is uncomfortable acknowledging in oneself. However, it’s important not to assume this explanation applies to any specific… Read More Financial wealth and emotional wealth are not the same thing

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When Money Becomes an Obsession Rather Than a Tool

Money is part of everyday life. Couples naturally talk about budgets, mortgages, pensions, savings, and future plans. The concern arises when money stops being a practical subject and becomes the lens through which everything and everyone is judged. Looking back, I realised that almost every conversation eventually came back to money. Not financial planning. Not… Read More When Money Becomes an Obsession Rather Than a Tool

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More Than Red Flags: When Love Becomes a Financial Transaction

There is a significant difference between building a life together and slowly watching your independence disappear. Healthy relationships involve shared decisions, mutual respect and a willingness to contribute according to each person’s circumstances. Financial abuse, however, is about control. It is about one person gradually acquiring access to the other’s assets, income and future security… Read More More Than Red Flags: When Love Becomes a Financial Transaction

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Watch for Familiar Family Patterns of Financial Control

Before you agree to sell, transfer, divide, or “protect” assets, take a hard look at family history — not just the current situation. Patterns repeat. 🚩 Ask This First: Is there a history in this family of taking control of other people’s: If the answer is yes — pause immediately. ⚠️ A Common Disguise: “We’re Just Protecting You”… Read More Watch for Familiar Family Patterns of Financial Control

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When They Don’t Pay Their Own Debts: Protecting Yourself After Abuse

w When someone refuses to take responsibility for their debts, the fallout can ripple through families, relationships, and even your sense of safety. When They Don’t Pay Their Own Debts: Protecting Yourself After Abuse Money is never just money. In abusive relationships, finances are often used as a weapon — a way to control, destabilize,… Read More When They Don’t Pay Their Own Debts: Protecting Yourself After Abuse

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💔 When Contributions Come with Conditions

By Linda C J Turner, Therapist & Advocate — Linda C J Turner Trauma Therapist | Neuroscience & Emotional Intelligence Practitioner | Advocate for Women’s Empowerment ©Linda C J Turner

In a healthy relationship—romantic or platonic—contributions like cooking, cleaning, or helping out around the house are acts of shared responsibility, not bargaining chips. But when someone suddenly stops doing those things the moment rent is mentioned, it reveals something deeper: They were willing to help as long as they weren’t asked to do anything that cost them… Read More 💔 When Contributions Come with Conditions

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💸 “How to Emotionally Detach from a Spreadsheet Addict”

Because you deserve a life beyond line items and petty expense approvals. ✂️ Step 1: Close the Tab—On Your Browser and Your Life Delete the shared folder.Unshare the Google Sheet.Clear your cookies and your conscience. He doesn’t need to track your mascara purchases anymore.You’re free. You can buy a croissant just because you feel like it—no pie chart required.… Read More 💸 “How to Emotionally Detach from a Spreadsheet Addict”

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Where Did All My Money Go? A Reflection on Financial Control and Economic Abuse

People often ask survivors of long-term toxic relationships, “Why didn’t you just leave?”The real question should be: “How could you, when everything — even your money — was used to keep you trapped?” Over the last 32 years of my life, I worked. I earned. I contributed. And yet, I was always financially depleted. Not because I… Read More Where Did All My Money Go? A Reflection on Financial Control and Economic Abuse

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💰 Financial Abuse Isn’t Always Obvious – But It’s Always Devastating 💔

For 25 years, I worked hard. I put my pension and savings into the shared “pot,” thinking we were building a life together. I contributed my fair share—50% of everything—yet somehow, it was never enough. While my friends were enjoying weekends away with their girlfriends, buying new clothes, and treating themselves to the occasional luxury,… Read More 💰 Financial Abuse Isn’t Always Obvious – But It’s Always Devastating 💔

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