Some people really are like that — bitter, twisted, and determined to poison moments that should be joyful. But their behaviour isn’t mysterious. It comes from very predictable psychological patterns. Here’s what’s actually going on underneath: 1. When someone ruins every celebration, it’s usually about control Celebrations take the spotlight away from them. Birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day —… Read More It’s not accidental.
By Linda C. J. Turner | Trauma Therapist & Neuroscience Practitioner© LindaCJTurner.com Sometimes the people around us — partners, friends, or relatives — behave in ways that leave us cringing, embarrassed, or frustrated. They make events all about themselves, seek recognition, exaggerate achievements, or invent stories to seem more impressive than they are. This isn’t… Read More Lack of Social Awareness: When Fantasy Meets Reality
Predatory behavior often arises from unresolved psychological needs or personality patterns. Common factors include: 2. Family and Upbringing Factors Certain family environments can shape predatory tendencies: 3. Environmental and Social Factors Beyond upbringing, society and environment can reinforce predatory tendencies: 4. Psychological Mechanisms Predators often share certain thought patterns: 5. Not Inevitable It’s important to note: not everyone with… Read More 1. Psychological and Emotional Background
By Linda C. J. Turner | Trauma Therapist & Neuroscience Practitioner© LindaCJTurner.com They don’t come with a warning label.They arrive charming, engaging, even slightly wounded — speaking of deep values, simplicity, “authentic living.” They seem low-maintenance, emotionally aware, perhaps even spiritual. But beneath the surface lies a driving agenda: survival through someone else’s stability. They are… Read More The Psychology of the Lifestyle Predator: When Charm Masks Dependency
When you’re divorcing someone who has been financially or physically abusive, the process often becomes an extension of the control and intimidation that existed in the relationship. Understanding what to expect can help you prepare emotionally, legally, and strategically. Here’s a trauma-informed breakdown of common divorce tactics used by abusers, followed by practical ways to protect yourself.… Read More 💣 Common Tactics During Divorce & Property Division
When someone deliberately plays cruel games with a person who’s already survived horrific trauma, it’s not “just relationship drama.” It’s psychological harm that exploits vulnerability and the brain’s attachment systems. Below I explain the types of people who do this, the neuroscience and psychology behind it, concrete behavioral examples, the typical impact on trauma survivors, and practical… Read More Playing cruel games
When intimate-partner violence escalates into homicide, it usually involves a predictable combination of personality traits, psychological dynamics, and neural patterns linked to control, fear, and rage. Let’s unpack this from three lenses: psychology, motivation, and neuroscience 👇 🧩 1. Psychological and Personality Traits of Abusers Who Kill Not all abusers who kill share the same personality type, but research shows clear patterns.… Read More 🧩 1. Psychological and Personality Traits of Abusers Who Kill
You heard it over and over:“They’re trying to control you.”Your family. Your friends. Anyone who cared about you —he cast them all as the enemy. But in truth, it was never them.It was him. Psychologically, this is a classic tactic of projection — one of the most common defense mechanisms in controlling or narcissistic personalities.Projection happens when a person… Read More “The Psychology of Projection: When the Real Controller Says ‘They’re Trying to Control You’”
Moraira.Perth, Australia.Bournemouth.Puerto Banús.The places your daughter and grandchildren lived.The places filled with laughter, warmth, and belonging. And he never came.Not once. Not to visit. Not to share a meal, a beach, a moment.Always an excuse — too hot, too far, too boring, too Benidorm. It speaks volumes. Because in psychology, avoidance is rarely about disinterest — it’s… Read More “When They Never Come: The Psychology of Avoiding What You Love”
There’s a certain kind of cruelty that isn’t loud — it’s symbolic.Ten years ago, Moraira was your dream: sunshine, family, peace.He never wanted to come. He criticized Spain — too hot, too tacky, too Benidorm.He dismissed your joy because it wasn’t his. But now, suddenly, it’s his place.He visits, settles, even claims it as though the dream was always… Read More “When the Abuser Moves to Your Dream: The Psychology Behind Suddenly Wanting Moraira”
Linda C J Turner | Trauma Therapist & Emotional Healing Specialist 