A. Loss of control triggers retaliation Divorce removes an abuser’s primary fuel: control. When they can no longer: they often shift to covert, deniable sabotage. Stealing cards from a shared postbox and reporting them stolen: This is called instrumental aggression — harm used strategically, not emotionally. B. Holidays intensify narcissistic injury Christmas amplifies three things abusers struggle with: Instead of… Read More Why abusers escalate at Christmas (psychology)

(And Why Unlearning It Is Part of Healing) Trauma survivors don’t ignore their intuition because it’s broken.They ignore it because their nervous system was trained to. Overriding gut feelings is not a personality trait — it’s a survival skill learned under threat. 1. Trauma Punishes Listening to Intuition In abusive or unsafe environments, intuition often says: But… Read More Why Trauma Survivors Are Trained to Override Their Intuition